Did my ex girlfriend even care about me
My ex girlfriend and I were together for three years. She originally wanted to get married but wanted at least a karat and a half ring. She had been engaged before but called it off ran away and sold the ring to help fund some of her debt, shop a bit and get stuff for her new apt. Long story short, she never offered to pay for anything hardly ever. Said everything was dates and that's the guys job to take care of the woman. She never had money, always needed help to keep her electric on and help make car payments, yet she always had her nails done, had her new car washed, had her hair done and occasionally purchased new clothes. Would hide the new stuff or say it was old but I knew it wasn't. She never seemed to put in the effort into the relationship I did yet would run to buffalo to party and go out with her friend and spend money. Never once did she take me out, or take me to a movie, or dinner. Best case she would pay the tip once in a while but that's it. I won a trip to italy that was worth 25 grand. She new months in advance that I won yet I had to pay for the passport, had to buy her all new clothes dress shoes jewlery for the gala event in italy, she brought a hundred bucks cash with her and came home with 20 of it, I brought five grand and came home with none of it. Needless to say I spent a good chunk while I was there. My birthday, we went to eat and she paid the tip, said sorry didn't think it would be that much and then after went to look at her new 200 dollar tattoo she wanted to set up her appt for. I stuck by her through thick and thin and I'm no angel by any means but bottom line is I took care of her, loved her and still do to this day and would have never left her. She left me, she always wanted me to help her with her bills saying if you love someone you take care of them. Yet I said if you love someone you move in together and share bills and work as a team. She said she had already lived with a boyfriend before and she ended up getting screwed because of it. She wanted me to show her I loved her before she moved in and I wouldn't even do that so why would she trust me enough to move in with me. My family thinks she was just trying to get money out of me to bail her out so she could better herself and then move on. She said her back is to the wall and she seems desperate and willing to do anything to get bailed out. Her best friend is a serious gold digger, three karat ring, been engaged five times in three years and her friend told me I just need to let her move in try it out and if it doesn't work then to get it over with but I think her and her friend were working on a plan to get my girlfriend bailed out so she could afford to move and that was just part of the plot. That's what my guts tell me. Either way, I would ask my girlfriend to make the bed after id worked all day, did laundry, cooked us dinner and just really wanted to sit down and relax and enjoy her company yet her reply was this isn't my house why should I make the bed. I said well its not my tummy but I still feed you everyday, and its not my pleasure when I take you to movies. Those are just dates that's the guys job she replies. Either way she said well that's your choice id rather eat in and have help with my bills. Im stressed and your out buying nice things for yourself. She's a stylist at a salon, self employed, doesn't get booked out a lot and she's home sleeping a bunch instead of making any effort to bail herself out. I wouldn't mind helping out but it seems she's not willing to work at it so why should I just give handouts you know. But she found a way to let the important things go that made me feel guilty like her necessities like electric and such. Yet her nails were done weekly, car washed weekly. Said she needed those things because she has to look good for her job. None of this is exaggerated the least bit either. She also always runs when we fight, rather than talking it over and working it out, can't ever say sorry cause she's never wrong and then our problems never get fixed. She has three steps, First step to a fight after I bring up a concern is to say she only did that because of something I did. Justification, second step if I'm persistent is she changes the subject, and third if I still won't drop it she runs away or hangs up on me. She says I'm immmature I'm 26 she's 33. We are no longer together. After three years she dumped me in a text message and then ignored me from then on. When I think back on our relationship I don't remember to many nice things she did for me to make me know she cared. Except for holidays she didn't make many attempts. I just loved her personality and we gelled and got along great, and I was brought up to stick by the woman you love and to work at everything and nothing is easy. So I did and I was always the one to initiate the make ups and I basically always had to apologize even when I didn't think I was wrong. What do you guys think, Honest opinion please, similar stories welcome, Pour it on me. Be brutal if need be, I need that to move on I think. I have been put down and made to feel like and now I feel like I have problems or something wrong with me. I loved her and still do and always made excuse for her like her ty upbringing or her family that doesn't do for her or her crappy friend that tried to purposely tear us apart.
