Me and my boyfriend just finishing having sex, and then I caught him masturbating behind my back? And he keeps lying to me about me!

He either just wanted to get off again, or he is addicted to masturbation

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

he either just wanted to get off again, or he is addicted to masturbation

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I have also caught him watching porn while I'm in the same room and I'm awake! I feel like I don't satify him! I'm really depressed I don't no what I'm going to do! I feel alone.:(

You say you caught him watching porn, like he was trying to hide it. Which seems silly on his part if you were awake and in the same room. Was he maybe actually trying to get you to watch it with him?

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Originally Posted by natalie1990

i have also caught him watchin porn while im in the same room and im awake! i feel like i dont satify him! im really depressed i dont no what im going to do! i feel alone.:(

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Just for fun, masturbate after sex when he is nearby, and make all the appropriate noises. If he asks questions, don't answer or comment, but just have your own fun. Be looking at the photos in a porn magazine for women.

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

you say you caught him watching porn, like he was trying to hide it. which seems silly on his part if you were awake and in the same room. was he maybe actually trying to get you to watch it with him?

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No he didn't I have watched it with him before but he wanted to hide it and hide everything els from me to! Y does he need to keep things from me I never gave him a reason to act like this! Is it me? :mad:

How do you react when you catch him doing these things? If you react as angry as you seem to be here, that may be why he tries to hide it. I like wondergirl's advice. I'd use it if I were you.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Just for fun, masturbate after sex when he is nearby, and make all the appropriate noises. If he asks questions, don't answer or comment, but just have your own fun. Be looking at the photos in a porn magazine for women.

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I just feel so insecure I can't do that how can I have fun when I'm so depressed about this situation! And now its like I can't give my head a rest from stresseing about it! I can't stop crying because I feel so betrayed and like he doesn't want me any more (sexually) or is just not into me.

How old are you anyway?

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

how do you react when you catch him doing these things? if you react as angry as you seem to be here, that may be why he tries to hide it. i like wondergirl's advice. i'd use it if i were you.

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When I caught him I just got up and left! And I am angry and upset because he knows that I've been through this before when I was with my ex I was with fir 4 yrs and he noes how depressed I got! :confused:

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

how old are you anyways?

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19!

Hello Natalie,

Don't feel alone!

Fr Chuck is most likley correct about him wanting to get off again... It is not uncommon for men or woman to want to get off again after already having an orgasm.

I believe that when you caught him, he was embarrassed.

I have walked in on my ex husband masturbating after we made love, and I said to him, " Would you like some help with that?"

So, not to worry, masturbation is normal...

As far as the porn... well... if it really bothers you, maybe you can talk to him about it. Maybe you two can watch it together, again... not uncommon.

Would you feel comfortable watching it with him?

I have always been a very mature and steady minded!

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

how do you react when you catch him doing these things? if you react as angry as you seem to be here, that may be why he tries to hide it. i like wondergirl's advice. i'd use it if i were you.

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Even change into a skimpy Victoria's Secret teddy or bikini lingerie thing that he has never seen, put your hair up, then loosen it and toss it in a provocative way, pose a bit in front of the mirror, and look real sexy. Then climb into bed with your magazine and masturbate away with lots of sighs and moans!

Fight fire with fire.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Hello Natalie,

Don't feel alone!

Fr Chuck is most likley correct about him wanting to get off again... It is not uncommon for men or woman to want to get off again after already having an orgasm.

I believe that when you caught him, he was embarrassed.

I have walked in on my ex husband masturbating after we made love, and I said to him, " Would you like some help with that?"

So, not to worry, masturbation is normal...

As far as the porn.... well.... if it really bothers you, maybe you can talk to him about it. Maybe you two can watch it together, again... not uncommon.

Would you feel comfortable watching it with him?

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No I wouldn't, I never have tats what I don't understand! One time I caught him watching porn and he would come over to me and want to have sex! Its like I don't turn hime on! Because I have been through this before with my ex< I tried to make him feel like its okay to watch porn and stuff like it was normall and I told him he can be as open as anything to me! But he still wanted to lie to me about everything!

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Even change into a skimpy Victoria's Secret teddy or bikini lingerie thing that he has never seen, put your hair up, then loosen it and toss it in a provocative way, pose a bit in front of the mirror, and look real sexy. Then climb into bed with your magazine and masturbate away with lots of sighs and moans!

Fight fire with fire.

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That sounds like he would enjoy that! But how do I get my confidence back! How do I get it out of my head that he want another woman! Everything just keeps going through my head! I can't stop crying

Its like I'm having the worst anxiety attacks! I love him so much why arnt I enough for him!?

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Originally Posted by natalie1990

that sounds like he would enjoy that! but how do i get my confidence back! how do i get it out of my head that he want another woman! everything just keeps goin thru my head! i can't stop crying

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He does NOT want another woman!! For pity's sake, woman, get a-hold of yourself!!

For us women, sex is all about love and commitment. For guys, it's all about sensation and pleasure, no matter how they can get it.

Didn't you ever hear that saying? "Women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex."

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Even change into a skimpy Victoria's Secret teddy or bikini lingerie thing that he has never seen, put your hair up, then loosen it and toss it in a provocative way, pose a bit in front of the mirror, and look real sexy. Then climb into bed with your magazine and masturbate away with lots of sighs and moans!

Fight fire with fire.

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That sounds like he would enjoy that! But how do I get my confidence back! How do I get it out of my head that he want another woman! Everything just keeps going through my head! I can't stop crying

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Originally Posted by wondergirl

he does not want another woman!!!!!!!!!! For pity's sake, woman, get a-hold of yourself!!!!

For us women, sex is all about love and commitment. For guys, it's all about sensation and pleasure, no matter how they can get it.

Didn't you ever hear that saying? "women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex."

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Do u no what the funny thing is!! We usually have sex like 2 or 3 times a day! Y does he still need more! And to keep it from me and also I give him what he wants..