Well Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half months and I'm so in love with him, and he feels the same way about me, but he admitted to me that he likes someone else. So I broke up with him.. was that the right thing to do? Because I still love him, but I don't want to be with someone that has feelings for someone else. Please help me!!

How old are you?

Hello Nelly,

Is this the first time you have ever been in love?

I'm 17 years old


No this is the second time, and it is really serious I decided to give this guy my all in the relationship.

Hate to break it to you, but 2 months is nowhere near long enough to get to know someone well enough to love them. Infatuation, yes, love, doubtful.

You're 17, do you know what it means to give it your all in a relationship?

I don't know but that's how I feel I know I can do better but I just don't want to because I had my mind already set on being with him and he told me that I'm the one and he broke up with me Wednesday of last week because I had thoughts of him cheating. He wanted me back on Sunday. So I said yes. Last night, he asked me if it was wrong to like two people at the same time. I said yes especially if your in a relationship, why? He was like cause he loves me so much but he likes another girl at his job. That just tore me apart.

Hello Nelly,

The reason I asked that was because I saw that you have only been with him for 2 months, so I thought that was a little fast. It takes me 2 months to learn the spelling of a guys last name, let alone fall in love with him...

If he has feelings for someone else, then I don't think you were wrong for ending it with him... However, you guys are young, so he may decide that you are the one he wants.

If I were you, I would get more involved with school activities, or some hobbies to really focus on yourself.

This too shall pass!

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by nellybaby2011

idk but thats how i feel i know i can do better but i just dont want to because i had my mind already set on being with him and he tld me that im the one and he broke up wit me wednesday of last week because i had thoughts of him cheating. he wanted me bacc on sunday. so i said yes. last night, he asked me if it was wrong to like two people at the same time. i said yes especially if ur in a relationship, y? he was like cause he loves me so much but he likes another girl at his job. that jus tore me apart.

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You never answered my question. Do you know what it means to give a relationship your all?

Yeaaa your definitelyyy rite thanks!!


Yeaaa I do? I have an idea what it is

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Hello Nelly,

The reason I asked that was because I saw that you have only been with him for 2 months, so I thought that was a little fast. It takes me 2 months to learn the spelling of a guys last name, let alone fall in love with him...

If he has feelings for someone else, then I don't think you were wrong for ending it with him... However, you guys are young, so he may decide that you are the one he wants.

If I were you, I would et more involved with school activities, or some hobbies to really focus on yourself.

This too shall pass!!

Good luck!

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I agree!

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Originally Posted by nellybaby2011

yeaaa i do? i hav an idea wat it is

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Well, explain to me what your idea is, I'm curious.

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

Well, explain to me what your idea is, I'm curious.

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Its like I'm the one calling him all the time, txtin him telling him how much I love him and miss him, and he barely does that. He use to do it, but not any more. I always brag about him. Like sometimes when I text him he don't text bacc unless I yell at him in the message.. mann I don't know I feel that I'm trying to hard.

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Originally Posted by nellybaby2011

its like im the one calling him all the time, txtin him tellin him how much i love him and miss him, and he barely does that. he use to do it, but not any more. i always brag abt him. like sometimes when i txt him he dont txt bacc unless i yell at him in the message.. mann idk i jus feel that im trying to hard.

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This is your idea of what love is?

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

This is your idea of what love is?

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No its not an idea its proof of how much I'm really feeling this boyy.. but love is more than that. Its like unexplainable. I'm not "in love" I have a lotta feelings for him and I call it love.

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Originally Posted by nellybaby2011

no its not an idea its jus proof of how much im really feeling this boyy.. but love is more than that. its like unexplainable. im not "in love" i jus hav a lotta feelings for him and i call it love.

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You're right, love is hard to define, that's why you shouldn't throw it around so easily. It's okay to have strong feelings for a guy, but if you want to express those feelings, say "I really care about you" because it's true. If you don't know what love is, or how to define it, then don't take a chance at lying to yourself or the guy by saying it's love. Saying "I love you" has nothing to do with meaning it if you don't know what it really is. I promise you something right now, if you don't get back with him, you'll be over him in a few weeks, and barely reemember what you felt. I can be sure of it, it happens to everybody.

Ohso,

I would give you a green again, but it won't let me... I agree with you 100%!

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Ohso,

I would give you a green again, but it won't let me... I agree with you 100%!

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:D

That makes me giddy!

Nelly, I think your trying much to hard to get something from someone that doesn't have anything to give you. That's not love my dear.

I think Talaniman is right,and I would stop trying if I were you.

You deserve better.