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My boyfriend that I have been with for almost a year lost his virginity to some hoe when he was drunk, and had sex with his ex girlfriend. It really bothers me that I'm a virgin and how I plan to have sex with him you know? Were serious about each other and plan on getting married when were older. It just bothers me so much, he said he wishes he could take it back. And to top it all off my real birth mother had me when she was 16 and I hate thinking about sex and stuff because it makes me feel like her. Help me.

Then have sex when you're ready to have sex. If you can't see yourself giving the most important part of yourself to him, then leave. Having sex with someone you love shouldn't make you dwell on what he has done in the past.

He's with you now... he's obviously waiting until your ready.. His past is his past... All that should matter is your future together.

Did he cheat on you? Or did he have sex before you two got together?

Thing is it is very hard to find a virgin. You can't blame him for what he did way back when. Sex is sex and honestly it happens in the worst ways all the time. And just make sure you give him a better chance than writing him off so soon. Remember he could have lied to you about it and you'd never have know. Chances are he doesn't have any STD but you may want to make sure of that before doing anything sexual with him. He is not dirty now, and if you think he is then think about this, every person on earth who have had children have done it, meaning even grandma and grandpa. If they aren't evil and dirty neither is he. And yes just wait until you're ready and do not take any pressure that gets put on you

His past relations are not really any of your concern.. it isn't about you. If you want his future to be you, better stop thinking about his past. He isn't living in it, you shouldn't be either. You have no business there. It is that simple. It is about being insecure. If you are insecure, then you are not going to be able to get past anything. That isn't healthy.

If he cheated on you while going together, then it's time for you to move on and don't look back.

Hello love,


Did he cheat on you?

If not, then his past is his past... If you are going to hold it against him, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with him.

Also, because you are a virgin, you really need to figure out if he is the one for you...

The last thing HE is going to want to hear is you nagging at him over his past!

If he did cheat on you, well then that's a whole different story.

How old are you and when do you plan to get married?