I had a sexual affair with a co-worker about 14 years ago we lost contact never knew anything about her however 3 years ago I received a letter in the mail from the courts for child support in the state of Georgia I live in New York at first I thought it was a mistake because I've never went to Georgia and I don't know anyone in Georgia and the mother's name wasn't the name I knew her as when we worked together anyway after back and forth in court I was ordered to take a DNA which turned out to show the kid as mine he was 10 at the time,now I've never seen this kid never heard about him and suddenly I'm in arrears for back child support I refuse to pay and they now garnish my check which includes a extra $100.00 for arrears,now I'm paying almost $1000.00 a month for a kid I've never seen or heard of before is there anything I can do about this it bothers me so much especially to know that I'm paying much more for this kid than my own son from my previous marriage,I know its wrong to hate but this is the first time in my life that I've ever hated someone so much do I have any rights or is there anything I can do.

Sue for either custody, or at least get visitation rights.

Get to know your child.

Have him visit you in NY on his summer break from school or whatnot….

Yes, and pass the word to young people about having sex without protection.

But this is very legal, and you should have not refused but tried to work out a payment plan for arrears.

And yes if you are the father, you should try to get to know your son

I hate to add to the seemingly agreed upon idea.. but switch sides for just a minute, imagine yourself as that child and not knowing anything about your father... not know about what it's like to have a father.. not know what it's like to go to a baseball game with your dad... not being able to talk about your dad on father's day... bottom line, although that ex-co-worker may be a something-or-another.. that kid is still your flesh and blood and you might want to think of it this way - if the kid comes to you ten or so MORE years down the road and says, "why didn't u want to see me?" how are you going to respond? Hate the mother. Not the child. Best of luck!

Hello moe:

What? You have enough sons? No, you don't. Sons are cool. It's not his fault. You can't blot him away. He ain't going nowhere.

When you're old and gray, you'll wish he was around.

excon

Nope. Unfortunately, there's not a damn thing you can do in this situation.