Partner of 4 1/2 years has cheated on me & left me for the person.
Hi,
My partner of 4 1/2 years has cheated on me and left me for the person she cheated on me with. I am so confused and hurt that it is tearing me apart. I don't know what to do. I feel numb, betrayed, very hurt and unwanted.
It all happened in a space of about 4 months.
5 months ago my partner got a tattoo with my name on her wrist.
4 months ago she said she found the perfect house for us to raise a family in.
3 months ago we bought the house together and moved in.
2 months ago (middle of December) she cheated on me.
5 days later we went to spend Christmas with my family.
1 month ago we separated because she 'needed space'.
2 weeks ago I accidentally found out that she cheated on me and has been with the person since December.
I kicked her out straight away.
I now feel so betrayed. So hurt. I don't know when the lying started. I don't know when she started having doubts about our relationship. She always said that cheating starts in the head and that she despised cheaters... and then she does something like that.
It feels like that the person I knew only 5 months ago has been exchanged by this monster. This uncaring monster who lies and cheats and doesn't care about my feelings. I don't understand.
I've tried talking to her but all she says is that she loves me but isn't IN love with me anymore. She says that she now has romantic feelings for this new person. How can someone change so quickly? I have messages from her from October/November telling me that she loves me.
She's now dating and sleeping with this guy and seems completely happy. As if the last 4 1/2 years didn't matter to her at all. As if she's forgotten all about the time we had together.
I can't stop crying and I cannot concentrate. I feel like a loser for not noticing her cheating and lying. I just trusted her completely. I keep thinking back to how she was a few months ago and I was so certain of her love for me.
I now need to know if anyone has experienced this before and if you were able to get over it and how long it took you. What did you do to get over it? What did you do to NOT think about her and about how happy she now seems. How do you get over her?