My boyfriend ask for a break, he is stressed don't have money, don't have job. The thing is he is short tempered now when I ask a question he would answer me with some hurt words. What can I do.

You protect your heart,let him have his break and you get on with your own life.
A person who wants a break rather than asking for the support of their partner when times are troubled,has,in my opinion,given up on the relationship.

I'm sorry but I think you should start moving on.

Leave him alone, as he has asked and try to give yourself some time to heal.

We can only be treated the way we allow others to treat us. Remove yourself from this verbal and emotional abuse.

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Originally Posted by classie

My boyfriend ask for a break, he is stressed dont have money, dont have job. The thing is he is short tempered now when I ask a question he would answer me with some hurt words. What can i do.

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Give him a break. A long break.

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The thing is he is owing me some money and cellphone and I don't want to move on now I still love him

Well he has no job or money, so you will most likely have to wait for your money back.
Why do you want to be with someone that has a short temper? Chances are that temper is only going to get worse unless he gets help for it.

He may need a break. He may find the stress of having little to no money with the addition of girlfriend problems a little too much to handle. Give him the break but get him some applications too. He may be extremely grateful to you. Just give him space though, it'll help the both of you. A break is just that, a break, its not always forever and if he gives you this reason then it is possible that he is telling the truth and is not actually leaving which I'm sure is what you really think. So yeah, give him space

Do the only thing you can do, give him his break

If you love him as you say, give him what he asks for and for now forget the money he owes you and the cell phone. He can't do much about either of those things without a job, and is to stressed to be a good partner that can return your love. He can return the cell phone though. And should.

I don't really have any advice for you, but I just wanted you to know I am going through a very similar situation with mine as well and just had sympathy for you. Not that it helps, but its not only you. I do know that you don't need to ask a ton of questions and stay on his case about it. If he needs a break he needs a break but I don't believe that it means its over. So take that for what its worth and best of luck to you! :)

Thanks guys but I did call him to find out how is doing? Guess what he reject my calls but I keep on calling him and he answer and said he told me that at the moment he don't have love and he can't give love back. Why he is pushing me away? As I am the one who can give him help and solutions to go through this situation, nay life sometimes is tough.

The only thing you can do now is to leave him alone.
Total no contact.

But he doesn't want your help, so back off, and leave him alone. It's a man thing, so respect it.

Most guys(not all) like to handle things internally, therefore we like to be alone to handle it. When we get pushed with constant questions like you are doing, we lash out and say things we wouldn't normally say because we feel it will lead to you leaving us alone

Hey guys I missed him very much its been too long now, don't know whether to call him or to move on with mylife but I love him too much. What to do really Im confused now.

You need to move on.
He said not to call and you must respect that.

Keep yourself busy and get your own life back.