My husband and I recently had a falling out his Mother. She came to visit and was a horrible guest. Smoking in my house, drinking like a sailor, ignoring my 3 year old daughter, bar hoppin.. etc. etc. My husband's family has recently been informed what really took place here. However, before knowing the truths, it was my 40th Birthday. My husbands family blew my entire birthday off. It is so difficult to be in a marriage where your husbands family is so ignorant. They all know how my mother-in-law can be. They have all had a problem or two themselves. Whenever she drops into our lives, there is always trouble. I just cannot believe they treated my 40th like it never happened. My family made up for it of course, my family is truly amazing!!

Me personally I wouldn't care at all. But then again I haven't celebrated my birthday since I turned 21 10 years ago. Not that I have a problem with aging but I just feel birthdays are for kids not adults.

If these people are so ignorant why do you care that they didn't show up?

I guess I would be a little miffed, but in all honesty, it's more childish to hold a grudge over something as silly as that. Like Spitvenom said, birthdays really are for kids. I know my ex's parents/ family didn't give a hoot about mine. I was lucky if his sister would send me a text. Heck half my family is the same way! One of my aunts still thinks I am 19... I am now 26...
I have read your other post about your MIL, and she does seem totally unreasonable, but it sounded like your hubby really sided with you. If that's the case then don't blame him for the way his family acts. He can only be held accountable for his actions, not theirs. I would let it go, and be glad that your MIL's dirty laundry came out in the open, and you don't have his family against you thinking she was a saint!

Who really cares what his family did or not do.

Whether they are trouble makers or not, whether they are ignorant or not, does not really matter.

What is important is your immediate family. Which is your husband and your child. If you have any problems with anybody else, they can all take a flying -ucking leap.

You need to get past this and remember what is important. Your husband and Child and not whether other family members celebrated your birthday or not.

Joe