Okay, so I was dating this one guy that was a total arrogant jerk and I have a guy friend named Chris that I knew for ever and we have always had a thing for one another since last January. Well He has always been a sweet heart no matter what and did anything and everything for me, even when I was dating this guy named James, Chris would still drive an hour out of his way to come see me even though it hurt him to see me with another guy. Well after dating James for 2 months I decided that I'm tired of him treating me badly when I could be with the guy that I've always had feelings for, so I broke up with James. Well me and Chris seemed to hit off and went on our very first date this past October and it went great, well he stopped talking to me for 2-3 months and hasn't came over since last October on Halloween. We started talking again, and he told me that he stopped talking to me because he has been working a lot, but I know different because I live with my brother-in-law who talks to Chris, and Chris tells him everything, like different reasons to why he doesn't talk to me, such as, he thinks he's not good enough for me, or he's been gaining weight and lost his license. I really like him and although were talking as friends right now its hard for me to stop thinking about him or want to stay away from him, but its also hard to talk to him when he hurt me for the second time, He told me that I'm right and he really wants to talk to me and tell me everything but every time I bring it up over text, he changes the subject and it irritates me. I don't know whether to just learn to realize that were just meant to be friends or still try and get to him. It drives me crazy and I don't know what to do...

For some reason it seems his feelings changed.

You can't force him to talk to you about his feelings,so I suggest you let it go.

Don't waste time wondering about him,move on.

You may have been great friends but he has to many issues to be a great partner. For one, he doesn't communicate with you, and that's a sign you have to pay attention too.

I agree with the other posters to an extent but I also think that if you think this friendship really has potential then why not stick your neck on the line?

Tell him how you feel and then one way or another you'll know exactly what he is thinking and if this can go anywhere.

Carpe Diem!

So, let me get this straight. You and Chris have known each other for a little over a year. During that time you were dating James for about 2-3 months (and during that time Chris would drive out of his way to come and visit you). Then when you actually call it quits with James, Chris makes his move and decides he doesn't fit the bill? Sounds like a mess. The best thing for everyone is to step back and take a breather for about 6 months. No men, no dates, no drinking, bars or cigarettes. During that time you will learn what needs to be done. Right now you're bouncing from one thing to another and don't even have time to react. Please try this, it works.

No bars no cigarettes? Where did that come from? Anyway I suggest leaving this situation too. Sounds like the guy thought you were something else totally and once he found out what you were really like he decided he didn't want you after all. Now he is making pansy excuses. He only wanted you because you were not available at the time.

I agree with Larken, he wanted what he couldn't have! Now that he could have it, doesn't really want it!
Confused about it at the least.
Maybe play hard to get again! Let him chase you. Guys love the chase