So I like this girl, we have hung out a lot and last weekend we drunkenly hooked up. Anyway we had a conversation about what we were after hooking up and while we both agreed we have not hung out enough for a relationship, I asked if she thinks there is a possibility of one in the future or if I'm wasting my time.

This is what she said, "I'm not sure what to tell you... I don't wanna say we'll def be together cause I have my reservations and I don't wanna string you along. But at the same time I don't wanna say we won't ever be anything cause I might change my mind and really regret that later on"

So is she worth it? Or should I just move on? Thanks!

Why not get to know each other first and see where that leads. There's no reason to rush a decision about each other so soon.

Understand what her 'reservations' are.. and then decide.

Why get hung up on it? Why not just keep having fun with her and keep the relationship the way it is for now and later when you are both sure sit down and talk about a relationship. There is not a reason to rush a relationship but you could keep having stringless hookups until a decision is made. Remember though that if you're looking for more you need to ask her out and try and get to know her better right away. Her decision wll be based on what she finds she likes about you so sell whatever you got to her and all that. But do not base your feelings on drunken sex, drunk sex is meaningless sex. Just my advice.

Be patient and date (actual dates). Attraction alone is nothing without interest and adoration.

So you started with a drunken romp in the sack, and then you're wondering about a relationship?

Why does that cart keep jumping in front of the horse.

Your expectations, and her expectations are only based on what you've shared so far. Not a great way to start.

Try your best to put some balance in this, ask her out if you're interested, go to a movie, a dance, the park, skating, etc. and THEN see where it goes.

So far, you and her have done nothing to indicate that you wish to build a foundation for a relationship. Stay out of the bedroom until you have at least an idea if a relationship is worth the effort or not.

Your just hang out buddies with some benefits it seems. Drunken benefits that is, so be careful.

I would barely call what your doing dating, so what kind of relationship are you looking for from her? If you know that, then you would know if you were wasting your time or not.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Your just hang out buddies with some benefits it seems. Drunken benefits that is, so be careful.

I would barely call what your doing dating, so what kind of relationship are you looking for from her? If you know that, then you would know if you were wasting your time or not.

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This post reminds me of a song that was popular years ago, "Don't the Girls (or guys) All Get Prettier at Closing Time? Don't make any decisions until the booze wears off. Then think about your decision A LOT.