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  • Feb 27, 2010, 10:05 PM
    Jeha
    Masterbating
    Would you think there is any thing wrong with any one who has never masterbated but constantly ejaculates while sleep.

    OK so you I'm a healthly normal teen, but it seems that as soon as I turned 19 I've become hornyer/ or my sex drive has sky rocketed, 2 days after I turned 19 I tried masterbating for the first time, which I'm actually disapointed with myself about. I contiune to do it more often, I sort of won't to stop but I fell I need some sort of pleasure what can I do?
  • Feb 27, 2010, 10:18 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    When you say constantly, what do you mean ?

    Why do you feel a need to masterbate ?
  • Feb 27, 2010, 10:52 PM
    leifweaver

    I am going to assume by constantly, you actually mean, "consistently". If you actually constantly ejaculate while you sleep you need to see a doctor immediately.

    I don't think that it is wrong not to masturbate, although it is unusual. Almost all men have masturbated at some point in their lives, and most men masturbate at least weekly*. However, masturbation is a personal choice and some religions discourage the practice.

    The other part of your question sounds like you are talking about nocturnal emissions. These are most common during adolescent years, but can happen anytime after puberty. These nocturnal emissions are normal and can happen to anyone. There is a correlation between NOT masturbating and nocturnal emissions (ie, people that do not masturbate have higher rates of nocturnal emissions OR people that have higher rates of nocturnal emissions tend not to masturbate.) While there is much speculation, no-one knows what causes them, and other than there being a bit of a mess, they are not harmful.

    Religious views: The old testament of the Bible says that nocturnal emissions make a man unclean and that there is a ritual cleansing that needs to happen, (which sensibly involved washing your body in water along with any cloth that you got semen on). Islam has a similar view.


    *Alfred Kinsey's 1950's studies on US population have shown that 92% of men and 62% of women have masturbated during their lifespan.[16] Similar results have been found in a 2007 British national probability survey. It was found that, between individuals aged 16 to 44, 95% of men and 71% of women masturbated at some point in their lives. 73% of men and 37% of women reported masturbating in the four weeks before their interview, while 53% of men and 18% of women reported masturbating in the previous seven days.
  • Feb 27, 2010, 11:18 PM
    Jeha
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    when you say constantly, what do you mean ?

    why do you feel a need to masterbate ?

    I don't feel the need to masterbate I'm just asking if there is anything wrong with not doing it.

    Constantly as in almost every time I dream about having sex
  • Feb 27, 2010, 11:21 PM
    Jeha

    Yes I do mean consistently. And I honestly have never done it before, and I don't feel the neeed to do it
  • May 20, 2010, 08:53 PM
    Clough
    Hi, Jeha!

    Everyone needs a release of some kind at various times. Sometimes, it can be sexual and other times it might be something else entirely.

    You're currently in school. Correct?

    Thanks!
  • May 20, 2010, 08:56 PM
    Aurora_Bell

    Ok, so first, why are you ashamed about masturbating? Why would you feel bad about that? It's totally natural to pleasure yourself, and it's not only for men.

    As far as your sex drive goes, I'm not a doctor, so I can only go on personal experience, which was when I started getting into my early teens, my libido sky rocketed. And than it plummeted and now it's about even. I was told that is my hormones working themselves out. Also when I started birth control it raised my sex drive again.

    Are you on any medications?
  • May 20, 2010, 09:11 PM
    Jeha

    You I'm 19, about 20 days left theni'm done in hs
  • May 20, 2010, 09:13 PM
    Jeha

    I'n on no meds and I just did not want to masterbate because everyone does it I love not doing things people do, I love to be different
  • May 20, 2010, 09:43 PM
    Clough
    Masturbation is something normal for anyone who's physically capable to do it.

    You can be different in other ways.

    Some of us want to be different than others in ways that are unique to the way that we are. However, in things that everyone normally does, it's usually okay to do that which comes naturally - especially with things that concern our bodily functions.
  • May 20, 2010, 09:50 PM
    Jeha

    I suppose but just to think that since pubity I've never done it but know I am I sort of laught at myself, thanks
  • May 20, 2010, 10:05 PM
    Clough
    When we are able to laugh at ourselves in a healthy way, that is something that's good!

    What are some other things that you like to do for fun, please?
  • May 20, 2010, 10:21 PM
    Jeha

    x box- sports-this is weird but I love to climb.chillin with my guy friends and my girl friends
  • May 20, 2010, 10:31 PM
    Clough
    I don't think that climbing is weird. Do you like to rappel?
  • May 20, 2010, 10:41 PM
    Jeha

    What is rappel
  • May 20, 2010, 10:47 PM
    Jeha

    No I don not reppel I've done it before years ago when I was like 10 but that's it
  • May 20, 2010, 10:49 PM
    Clough
    Please click on the following links to find out about what rappelling is.

    climbing rappelling - Google Search

    rappelling - Google Search

    You've mentioned sports. What kind of sports do you like to do, please?
  • May 20, 2010, 10:50 PM
    Clough
    Okay, you beat me to my response to your previous question!
  • May 20, 2010, 10:52 PM
    Jeha

    Lol yeah I decided to look it up
  • May 20, 2010, 10:53 PM
    Clough
    What about the sports that you like to do, please?

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