Maybe I'm looking in the wrong place, but how does NC apply when you are separated or divorced and have children together, or mortgage responsibilities together? Thanks ahead of time.




G&P

Sadly, when there are kids involved, you really can't do no contact.

You can do limited contact. In other words, only allow contact to discuss the kids or the mortgage etc. Maybe suggest only communicating via email until things have settled down.

It's always hard to break up, even harder when you can't just walk away. He'll be in you life forever, one way or another, because of the kids. That doesn't mean that you have to be buddies though.

Good luck.

You do NC like anyone else would, except when it comes to the kids or mortgage. When you talk to him about the kids, keep it short, and just about the kids.
You don't have to talk to him about the mortgage responsibilities really, if you two are separated or getting divorced, you are going to need a lawyer, and they will handle all that. But it is expensive, so if you do choose to work it out with no lawyers, which is hard when it involves money and kids, just keep it to the point of topic, and they go off topic and try talking about the relationship or whatever, you can tell him your not discussing this, and walk away, or say bye and hang up the phone, pretty simple.
The initial separation with kids and mortgage involved are usually pretty messy 8 out of 10 times, but in time, things will gradually get more civil.
Good luck

Keep contact about the kids only. It's hard but my fiancé does it with her ex, she only talks to him when it has to do with the kids and that's it

Be very clear on your intentions of having a need to know base relationship. Keep contact to a minimum and only about the kids and mortgage.

I'm not sure but as far as the mortgage goes could you not make separate payments to the account and leave this completely out of your relationship allowing it only to be about the kids?

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dynocompe disagrees : I kind of disagree on the communicating via email only, emails often can be misunderstood, since you can't hear there tone, also people tend to speak there mind more in a email, which could just cause more drama

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Time to re-read the rules of the site. Disagrees (reddies) are only for factually incorrect information. My post was an opinion.

I really don't care that you gave me a reddie, but others will if it isn't justified, which this reddie wasn't.

Read the rules, you agreed to them when you signed up to the site.

Sorry was just giving my opinion on the matter! Wasn't trying to upset you and was unaware of that rule, thought I a disagreed, I just simply disagreed. Sorryyyyyy

Thanks all. BTW, I'm a dude.

In the past it has been easy for me to just move on, but my wife gave me the "I need space" line. So I granted it and moved out. It is hard, but we actually get along better. We mutually agreed to a written separation without lawyers. She is not interested in reconciling, and I'm not going to waste my time, emotions, or money trying to woo her back if she tells me she can't see us getting back together again. That was about a month ago.



G&P

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Originally Posted by dynocompe

sorry was just giving my opinion on the matter! Wasnt trying to upset you and was unaware of that rule, thought I a disagreed, i just simply disagreed. Sorryyyyyy

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If you disagree with someone's post you can do it in a new post by "quoting" their response and what you actually disagree with , as Alty said Reddies are for factually incorrect information.

And believe me you'll be frowned upon if you go splashing them around for opinions.

NC for the married guy.

Your focus is to be a good dad, and keep all contact with her cordial and polite, but only about the business you share, and if she can't be, Emails are a good second choice. Beyond that talk to a good lawyer if she won't co operate.

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dynocompe disagrees : I kind of disagree on the communicating via email only, emails often can be misunderstood, since you can't hear there tone, also people tend to speak there mind more in a email, which could just cause more drama

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Disagrees are for incorrect or dangerous information. Not an opinion. Read the rules why don't cha!

Think about it this way.

You want to separate business and personal life. Avoid any unnecessary contact.