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  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:05 PM
    Hurting_Inside
    Being different animals by pretty much my whole school and its hurtful
    I'm in my third year of high school and i have a problem that has been ongoing and no matter what ppl say to these ppl they never leave me alone. MY freshman year there were these kids who pasted my face onto an animals face and tortured me about it than some other kids started calling me other animals and im so sick of hearing it and they just won't stop no matter what anyone says to them i try to ignore it but it just gets to me all the time and now even a teacher who im not sure if she knows ppl say it about me but she was saying something about it too and idk if she knew it was me they were talking about i really dont know what to do i want them to stop but i dont want nothing violent to come out of it and ive done everything i could its pretty much my whole high school that calls me these names not only that but ppl i dont even know hear their friends calling me that so they feel its ok for them to do it my actual friends and boyfriend dont call me these names they stick up for me when other ppl say it around them and some ppl i dont know know that other ppl call me these names but they dont call me these names idk what to do can someone please tell me ive tried telling counselors and teachers about it but it just seems to get worse and i go home and cry about it all the time because im sick of hearing it and they say the same stuff all the time like go back into your bat cave and stuff and i feel emotionally hurt cause of this stuff:mad:
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:12 PM
    cdad

    What exactly are they saying? Also if you use puctuation and make sentences its a lot easier to read.
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:14 PM
    Hurting_Inside

    They call me things like a wombat, a dog, a bat and pretty much everything and they always tell me things like go back to your bat cave and stuff like and ask me how I like my dog food and what kind of dog food I eat
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:16 PM
    cdad

    As far as going back to your bat cave. Take it as a compliment in your mind. That is where batgirl comes from. Other names are just that names. If they can't say your real name then don't pay any attention to it. They sound like first graders.
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:21 PM
    Hurting_Inside

    Still it gets annoying even when people laugh at it that don't even know you and I feel bad for my boyfriend people are always saying oh you know its wrong for a person to mate with an animal and stuff like that and saying that if someone was to hit me its animal cruelty and I don't want to sink to their level I'm tired of this they act so immature
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:24 PM
    cdad

    Maybe take a tape recorder with you to school and record them when they say things. Then if your at a gathering where parents are near you can play it back. On accident.
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:25 PM
    Hurting_Inside

    They know the people do it I've told them and they called the school about it and I've even brought it up to the principals and stuff but they never did anything they gave few people detentions but that was about it and it made things worse
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:27 PM
    cdad

    Then make some recordings of it and take it to your parents. From there they can take it to a lawyer and a lawsuit can be filed on your behalf.
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:30 PM
    Hurting_Inside

    Im not sure about that though like I said it's my entire school and I don't like that is there anything else I could do to make them stop I just feel like no matter what things will just get worse. I have this nightmare where when I graduate I get my diploma and I walk across the stage people will be calling me wombat and dogface and bat and stuff and its going to embarrass me I used to be bulimic because of this stuff and I got help for that and I'm not going down that road again I don't know what else to do
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:32 PM
    cdad

    How did this all start in the first place ?
  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:50 PM
    hheath541

    I dealt with similar behavior in school. Although, thankfully, it pretty much stopped before high school.

    I found that thanking them, in a kind voice, tended to throw them off. I would also treat the nasty questions like honest ones, and answer them. They ask you what dog food you eat, tell them you prefer alpo, but purena will do in a pinch.

    It doesn't erase the hurt that comes with the remarks. And it doesn't make them stop. But it can throw them off long enough for you to be on your way and out of earshot. It also takes the fun out of it for them if you don't seem bothered by it anymore.

    Also, the tape recorder wouldn't be a bad idea. If taking it to the principal doesn't do anything, then you threaten to take it to the school board. Your parents could even threaten to sue the school for allowing the harassment to continue. It's possible that they would start cracking down on harassment school-wide if they think they're in danger of a lawsuit.
  • Feb 24, 2010, 07:10 PM
    Breezy121698

    Well maybe u can try laughing with them.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 05:28 AM
    shazamataz

    Make a t-shirt with a picture of a Wombat on it and write "I'm a Wombat and Proud of it"

    Sometimes if you just make a joke out of it the bullies lose interest knowing that you aren't upset by it.

    When I was at school the bullies picked on the kids that reacted back... the ones who cried or got upset.
    They left the kids alone that didn't seem bothered by their taunting because it became boring to them.

    I would always advise to talk to a teacher first but seeing as how you have tried that it might be time for a different approach.

    Add - To give you an example, in year 7 there was a boy who made up this song about me... it was called the "Feral Sheryl" song... it hurt... a lot, but after the tenth time I just started singing it along with him and laughing. He never did it again.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 10:28 AM
    hheath541

    When I was in fourth grade a bunch of the kids started calling me ET. After awhile, I just started smiling and thanking them. When one of the finally asked me why I was thanking them and if I knew what it meant, I told them that it meant 'extremely talented.' they stopped a few days later.

    Start doing some research on the animals they call you most frequently. Find things about them that you admire or find interesting. It's amazing how changing your perception of the insult can change everything.

    Did you know that the US used dogs as soldiers until WWII? They even had ranks; private, lieutenant, captain, etc. they were trained to wear packs that carried vital equipment, like radios and radio wires, from one base to another. They followed nothing more than the scent of their handler and made their way through fire and minefields. Capturing a dog was seen as more important than capturing an ordinary soldier.

    That would make you one of the most valuable, bravest, and smartest soldiers ever to serve.

    Wombats are an extremely endangered species. They only live in a few places in australia. They build elaborate burrows underground, complete with twists, turns, and interconnecting chambers. They're marsupials, like the kangaroo. They are very strong, and single wombats have been known to dig through fence posts or push them over.

    That would make you very special and rare, an amazing architect and maze maker, and extremely strong.

    Besides, I think wombats are kind of cute.

    http://www.wombania.com/wombats/womb...es/wombat4.jpg
  • Feb 25, 2010, 11:09 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    How did this all start in the first place ?

    I would like to know the answer to that also!
  • Feb 25, 2010, 11:24 AM
    Kitkat22
    http://www.pacer.org/bullying/mhs/index.asp - 16k

    I worked with children in different schools. What is happening to you is called bullying! It is against the law. Any form of name calling, taunting posting pictures and texting ugly messages on the computer or cell phone is called cyber-bulling. We have gone through this with one of our grandchildren.

    You need to talk with the principle and the school counslor. Inform your parents and also inform the Superintendent of your school dstrict. It's not tattle telling, it's stopping these people from making your life miserable. Don't ever let yourself feel inferior because a few ignorant
    People want to make themselves feel good by putting somebody else down..


    Always remain calm when you are stating your case. Please let your parents know. If the superintendent doesn't do anything I would suggest going to the local media.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 04:41 PM
    Hurting_Inside

    It started by some guys pasting my picture of my face from the yearbook on a dog and posting this all over the internet and than some other kid said I looked like a wombat and started to call me that and its not even aan uglly animal a wombat but there's am ugly picture of one on Google that they say I am but idont even look like that
  • Feb 25, 2010, 04:44 PM
    Hurting_Inside

    I talked to the prinicpal and stuff and they said that no one can do anything about what's posted on Facebook and myspace and that was it and I kept going back to them and these kids don't think of things like that I mean I tell them all the time oh you I'm proud to be a dog and stuff but they make things worse
  • Feb 25, 2010, 04:59 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Hurting_Inside View Post
    it started by some guys pasting my picture of my face from the yearbook on a dog and posting this all over the internet and than some other kid said i looked like a wombat and started to call me that and its not even aan uglly animal a wombat but there's am ugly picture of one on google that they say i am but idont even look like that

    That's horrible! Look sweetie, I am going to give you some advice. Start documenting the incidents. Go back and get what information you can obtain about your talk with the principle. Copy the images they post of you on your computer and send them by email to the Superintendent of your school. He is supposed to handle things like this.

    Set up a meeting with him and if comes up with an excuse to ignore you
    Then you tell him you're going to talk to an attorney and go to the newspaper and the TV and be prepared to do this.You are not alone. I know what it's like. Bullying and Cyber-bullying is a crime. Good luck and look at the websites on your states bullying laws and make copies of them. There is also a zero-tolerence policy in all schools. Read the handbook from your school. Hope I helped! :):)
  • Feb 25, 2010, 05:18 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Kitkat22 View Post
    I would like to know the answer to that also!

    It started by some guys pasting my picture of my face from the yearbook on a dog and posting this all over the internet and than some other kid said I looked like a wombat and started to call me that and its not even aan uglly animal a wombat but there's am ugly picture of one on Google that they say I am but idont even look like that
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