Hi.
Embarrassing question, but I could only find similar accounts from men, which is troublesome as a chick. :(
I don't experience pleasure when I orgasm. At all. And I know I'm having an orgasm, because I can feel the fluttery contractions down there and a sort of... intensity throughout my body. It does not, however, feel good.
Anyone have experience with this?

Hello Jackie,

Have you talked to your Doctor about this?

No... I told him I was having sexual issues, but he assumed I couldn't attain orgasm at all and went off on a tangent. And then I felt too nervous to correct him.

Hello again Jackie,

I have heard of women who are unable to reach orgasm through penetration. I have not heard of women having orgasms, and not enjoying it. Now, I know that when I have orgasms through penetration, they feel good, but not as intence with clitoral orgasms. When I am receiving oral and start to reach orgasm, it is so sensitive that I will ask I'm to either slow down the pace or stop all together.

Is it only orgasms through penetration that don't feel good, or clitoral as well?

Both kinds. Though it's less bad when it's through penetration, probably because the stimulation is less intense.

Hello again Jackie,

If I were you, I would get a second opinion. I would go to doctor who will empathize with you.

I know that all of my orgasms are a little different, some intense more than others, but, all in all, they all still feel good. So I would talk to another doctor. Maybe even a female doctor.

I wish you luck!

Yeah, it would probably be a lot better with a female doctor. Thanks :)

You're welcome! ;)

I'm not sure that I think this is a medical issue.

It sounds as if your body is responding physically as it should - fluttery sensations, intensity - but your mind is either resisting or not understanding that it's pleasurable.

Is there something else that is happening here? What have your previous sexual experiences been like, and is the lack of 'pleasure' the same when you masturbate?

'Pleasure' can be a perception, and I'm wondering why you don't interpret what is happening to your body as pleasurable.

I used to have a similar sensation. It was like the sneeze that goes away. You have it but it sure isn't great. Is this kind-of what it feels like?

My "problem" was not there before I first had sex with a guy. Then it was constant until I got together with my current husband. With me, it was trust and wanting to have him inside me. It was a spiritual thing, trust that he wanted to do more than just use me. I used to use guys; used to push them out when what makes orgasms feel good is to welcome him in and trust.

And no, no one could sympathize or trouble shoot with me. I hope this gets better for you. Finding a doctor who has the same parts as you may help a lot.

Hey Jackie, I have a similar problem. I had achieved orgasm once before with clitoral stimulation. Unfortunately, it does not work any more... I get aroused, no problem with desire... Pleasure peaks and when I'm about to orgasm something happens. It's like 'losing a sneeze' as someone said. My body tenses and I have these 'shakes' it's like a pulse that shakes my body but it's not pleasurable. To say it's painful will be incorrect. But it's frustrating and there is no feeling of release. There is no pleasure. I've been doing research. I think it may be Orgasmic Anhedonia/ PDOD. Check out this website I found. I also saw it being described, by a man, on a TV show on Discovery: Strange Sex.

http://sexualmed.org/index.cfm/sexual-health-issues/for-women/orgasmic-anhedonia-pleasure-dissociative-orgasmic-disorder-pdod/overview/

Check it out... I think we should each see a doctor who specializes in this for further details and testing.

Good luck to you.

I have the same problem entirely! I think I've always had this problem bits just sinking in more recently. And for some reason its making me really sad right now (though I have no idea what I'm missing). The little I found about this online suggested it could be a dietary sufficiency or neurological issue. Though most women that have this problem take less (ice never had to take any less like that before). Anyway its got me feeling really alien and its nice to know I'm not the only one. I'm also a little scared.. like if there's something wrong with my body structure or that I'll need intense sex-therapy (the idea makes me uncomfortable).

I honestly do want to experience what everyone claims too, but I also just feel bad for my boyfriend (I've tried explaining it to him, but he just doesn't get it - not that that it suprises me. Most women I talk to don't believe me and insist that I just haven't had one. Ive been sexual active for 7 years and had seven partners been taught about sex since we were children, we know when we have one, ugh!