My husband hates when I express ANY emotion other than subdued voice and prefers no opinionated responses to whatever he says.. What do I do to deflect this and explain that emotions are human.. I mean to him.. im too happy, or too sad, or too mad, or too anything.. it drives me nuts... really it does

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Sounds like he is controlling.
Have you thought about marriage counseling?

That's completely unreasonable. Doesn't he ever get angry?

You just be yourself, if he does not like you showing emotion, that is his problem. Will he go to counseling with you

He doesn't want you show emotion or share your opinion?

It sounds like he needs to do some work on the controlling behavior. Like a total overhaul.

He does not own you, and your opinion does matter.

If you allow this type of treatment, he's going to continue it.

Will he go to counseling like has been suggested?

PUNCH HIM IN THE EYE! That will shut him up! Then he'll know what it REALLY means to be TOO angry. :)

OR, try to go to counseling, I like that idea better. :)

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Hheath541 agrees: I'd aim somewhere a bit lower, personally

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So would I , but I didn't want to be the one giving her THAT idea, :D:rolleyes:

A healthy boundary for the expression of our feelings/emotions states that we open a sentence with,"I feel..." we let go of the feeling and allow the other to express what they are feeling,if anything.

Setting Personal Boundaries - protecting self

Having personal boundaries allows us to be free of the outcomes,the expectations we often associate with differences of opinion,the controller verses the controlled.

Take a look at that site, it took my S/O about a year to understand the boundary she had been working towards,to become recognizable(as to dealing with her family)

it is an easy read,more difficult to implement being that we are already set in our ways.

I hope you try it out and see how much freedom you can have from these situations you are in.