When I suggest having sex my boyfriend makes a face or he says mayb later ( when later comes I don't ) its not just once or twice in a blue moon he does it, I understand he could be tired or playing his ps3 or he just doesn't want to but its every time I want to have sex its going on months now its getting to me in a big way I'm thinking of leaving him that's how bad its gotten I rather be rejected by some bloke in the pub then the one I love.. I've talked to him about it and he says he'll try then when I do get the courage up to suggest sex he does it all over again... I have to get in a huff before I get sex then its no good because I'm so upset.

Hello So,

If a man would rather play ps3 over making love to me... Then see you later! Catch my drift?

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Hello So,

If a man would rather play ps3 over making love to me... Then see ya later! Catch my drift??

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I agree with this. Is he a MAN or a BOY?

Most men would absolutely LOVE to have their lady initiate sex. He is lucky and doesn't even know it. Or appreciate it.

Is he so clueless on your other needs?

Wow, I can't believe a guy would want to play video games instead of playing with his girlfriend.

Tell him he needs to step up to the plate.

I think you can find a guy who meets your needs much more than he does. (Emotionally and physically)

Is he so clueless on your other needs?[/QUOTE]

No he not he is amazing everywhere else he takes great care of me and we have great sex when we do, I've tried everything thou this my last resort because its affecting my confidence so bad.
We're together o

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Is he so clueless on your other needs?

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No he not he is amazing everywhere else he takes great care of me and we have great sex when we do, I've tried everything thou this my last resort because its affecting my confidence so bad.
We're together over 2years it wasn't always like this

I'd tell him again.

Tell him that this is getting to you, so much so that you're thinking of leaving.

Be calm when you talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him what you told us.

If that still doesn't work, then the tell him not to let the door hit him in the arse on his way out.

Video games instead of sex? Is he dead?

K I shall have the talk with him.

Thanks a mill to all for taking the time to give me advice :)

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when i suggest havin sex my boyfriend makes a face or he says mayb later ( when later comes i dont ) its not just once or twice in a blue moon he does it, i understand he could be tired or playing his ps3 or he just doesnt want to but its everytime i want to have sex its going on months now its getting to me in a big way im thinking of leaving him thats how bad its gotten i rather be rejected by some bloke in the pub then the one i love.. ive talked to him about it and he says he'll try then when i do get the courage up to suggest sex he does it all over again.... i have to get in a huff before i get sex then its no good coz im so upset.

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Look at what you just wrote... seriously read it again. Now think... is THIS what you want to deal with the rest of your life? I guess not. He is who he is... you are who you are... I recommend that you stop wasting your time with Mr. Wrong and look for Mr. Right.

Baby girl he don't want you anymore if you got to keeping asking him for sex then he don't want you maybe he having sex with some else :( :(:(:( sorry

Lol?

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baby girl he dont want you anymore if you got to keeping asking him for sex then he dont want you maybe he having sex with some else :( :(:(:( sorry

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Wow! In one sentence you've made her feel "UN-sexy", and suspicious of her man being unfaithful.

We don't know anything at all about this guy, and what he wants, or what he is doing. Let's not jump to conclusions.

If he is "great" in all other aspects, then he should be approachable on this subject.

Between games.

We don't want to make Sohotitsscary feel uncomfortable about herself. So I agree with JMJoseph. I would like to know though, hae you tried talking to him about this and if so, what has he said?

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We don't want to make Sohotitsscary feel uncomfortable about herself. So I agree with JMJoseph. I would like to know though, hae you tried talking to him about this and if so, what has he said??

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I couldn't feel any more uncomfy then I already do so comments don't offened, k where to start... I've done every thing to sueduce him from dressing up kinky to cleaning in my underwear, we do have sex and its still as good as when we first started dating but its only when he wants to.. he is a great bloke he treats me great everywhere else he always very attentive to me and he knows I'd super glue his penis to his belly if he cheated

Yes I have talked to him about it but after he does it so its when I've snapped so its more me crying, he just holds me and says sorry he try not to do it and he didn't even notice he did it so much... then when I did get the build up of convidence to hint we have play times... he did the face because he wanted to play the computer
I just walked away he asked me to come back but I just said leave me alone I'm going to bed, he came after me to do me to cheer me up
I know it was just to keep me happy

Maybe he wants to wait a while or he's too afraid to do it. You never know maybe he feels pressured into doing it just like you can sometimes be pressured into doing it. Just give him time I'm sure he'll come around. Start kissing him than try to make the first move and see how he reacts to it

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Maybe he wants to wait a while or he's too afraid to do it. You never know maybe he feels pressured into doing it just like you can sometimes be pressured into doing it. Just give him time im sure he'll come around. Start kissing him than try to make the first move and see how he reacts to it

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I've done that and that leads to fooling around then I do the lets go to bed nod and he says not now and we just snuggle now I don't have the convidence to try fool around when we kiss and cuddle

Oh we live together could that have something to do with it?

Hello again,

It sounds to me that he may be going through something in his mind. I don't know this man, however, I don't think he is cheating on you. I think that you should get to the root of HIS problem. Sit down and find out how you two can improve your sex life. I understand that you are here for advice. It's not ours that you should be asking for, it's his. We can all speculate what's going on. We don't know. You should talk to him. I am under the assumption that you two are young, so, with that being said, if he doesn't change his ways or at least work on it with you, then I would say move on! I wish you luck.

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Hello again,

It sounds to me that he may be going through something in his mind. I don't know this man, however, I don't think he is cheating on you. I think that you should get to the root of HIS problem. Sit down and find out how you two can improve your sex life. I understand that you are here for advice. It's not ours that you should be asking for, it's his. We can all speculate what's going on. We don't know. You should talk to him. I am under the assumption that you two are young, so, with that being said, if he doesn't change his ways or atleast work on it with you, then I would say move on! I wish you luck.

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Any suggestion as to how to talk to him I don't even have the convidence to talk to him about it I just get upset... I think I'm afraid of what he'll say back but your right I do need to talk to him

If you cannot TALK to someone about sex, you shouldn't be having sex with that person anyway.

What the heck kind of relationship do you have where you can't talk to your partner about anything? Is that REALLY the kind of partner you want to be with for the rest of your life? One you can't talk to?

Just TALK! Say "We don't have sex anymore, and I was wondering if there is a reason for it. It hurts me when you don't pursue me, and we should talk about it".

There! Done! If HE won't talk about it--once again, why do you WANT to have sex with someone you can't talk to about sex?

I live with 11 hetro guys. Today I asked them all how many times they masterbated a day. Everyone said about once a day except my nextdoor nieghbour who said embarassedly once a month. Some people have a very low sexdrive.

However knowing this doesn't get rid of your problem. You say you have been with him for quite some time, do you still go out together, for meals or anything that can be called romantic?

Being a gamer myself I have known this to get in the way of a relationship. This has happened with close online friend. Playing xbox or ps3 can take a lot of your ambition out of you I know for my friend ken when he stopped playing xbox his marriage did pick up. However gaming is a hobby as much as tennis or football so telling him to cut down could be very problematic.

Have you tried getting out of your everyday enviromeant? Things can get stale at home.