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  • Feb 23, 2010, 04:30 PM
    helllo8998
    Me and my ex broke up about four weeks ago, should I contact her or let it be?
    Me and my ex of five months broke up about four weeks ago, still haven't talked to her since then. I think we both were in a way quite blind-sided about the break up. Our relationship was great, we talked about our future, marriage, kids. These past weeks have been nonetheless weird, I've been seeing "signs" and hints relating to her. I really think she's the one for me. I miss her and wonder if she misses me. I don't know what to do, any advice?
  • Feb 23, 2010, 04:34 PM
    450donn

    Make a basic no commitment contact and leave it up to her. But do not be too surprised if you get no replies. Won't hurt. But do not become a stalker.
  • Feb 23, 2010, 04:34 PM
    mallie619

    You I have advice for you..
    You should contact her.
    I'm pretty much sure she does miss you just as much as you miss her..
    I'm dealing with the same situation
    And I took it very hard. I mean everything I do makes me just want to talk to the one I lost
    Every song.
    Did you have a steady relationship..
    Why did you break up if you don't mind me asking?
  • Feb 23, 2010, 04:39 PM
    Enigma1999

    Hello,

    Why did the two of you break up, please?
  • Feb 23, 2010, 06:29 PM
    helllo8998
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    Hello,

    Why did the two of you break up, please?

    I asked her a question about the relationship, and I actually was quite hesitant about asking her because I didn't know how she would take it in the first place, cause everything just seemed really right at the moment, maybe she wasn't expecting it I don't know but anyway I asked her if it was really worth it anymore, and I just wanted a legit answer that's all. She replied with something bitter saying was it ever really worth it. Part of me feels she only said that because she might of thought I was, in lack of better words "done with her" and wanted to act like a tough guy about it, but that was so not the case, all I wanted was an answer, so basically that was it.
  • Feb 23, 2010, 06:45 PM
    Enigma1999

    Hello,

    Well when questions are asked like that. They can easily be misconstrued. There still might be potential here. If I were you I might try to contact her. Just based off what you told us, I don't see it to be quite over. Try writing her a letter apposed to texting, or phone. That way you can get all of your feelings out without any, "well you did this, and you did that" sort of thing. Are you comfortable with that idea?
  • Feb 23, 2010, 07:24 PM
    helllo8998
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    Hello,

    Well when questions are asked like that. They can easily be misconstrued. There still might be potential here. If I were you I might try to contact her. Just based off of what you told us, I don't see it to be quite over. Try writing her a letter apposed to texting, or phone. That way you can get all of your feelings out without any, "well you did this, and you did that" sort of thing. Are you comfortable with that idea?

    Then again I've heard around that she wants nothing to do with me, so I'm just not going to say anything. Her best friend gave me back the ring I got her also. So I think its pretty much over. I'm only 24 there's plenty of fish in the sea
  • Feb 23, 2010, 07:35 PM
    mallie619

    Yes you are only 24 your young so don't let just one girl drag you down you should enjoy life before you want to settle it down because once you do there's no going back
  • Feb 23, 2010, 07:37 PM
    Enigma1999

    Hello,

    Well you pretty much have your answer. Good luck to you.
  • Feb 23, 2010, 09:05 PM
    helllo8998
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    Hello,

    Well you pretty much have your answer. Good luck to you.

    Thanks.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 12:31 PM
    jaime90

    It's normal to "see" her in everything that you do. It's normal to have feelings for her appear out of nowhere, and to have memories spring up when you're doing your very best to put them away.

    In all of this, it's still best to let it be, and not contact the other person. It's great to want to go no contact, but actually doing it is a step that can be difficult to take. You're "seeing" this girl everywhere, but you have to put it to rest, and move on, which is what makes a break up so dang difficult.

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