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  • Feb 22, 2010, 02:11 PM
    football 13
    We have sex but don't sleep in same bed
    I am in a new relationship with a wonderful man ,we are having sex, but he rarely sleeps in my bed, more often on the sofa. Does he really like me? I need to know I thought we had something special, as I don't know how to ask him if everything is OK. Please help, as it is making me feel sad, and insecure.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 02:17 PM
    teastalk

    That is a weird situation. I think you should break up with him. There's no reason for him to sleep on the couch unless there is not enough room for the both of you on the bed.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 02:18 PM
    spitvenom

    Talk to him! Maybe he has crazy legs and kicks when he is asleep. Maybe he doesn't like your bed. Only he knows why.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 03:03 PM
    Devorameira

    Ask him straight out. Maybe he just doesn't get a good nights sleep in somebody else's bed or maybe he snores and is afraid he'll keep you awake. You'll never know until you ask him!
  • Feb 24, 2010, 07:23 AM
    racquel58

    I definitely think you should ask him first! I mean, that would not be an unreasonable question on your part at all! THEN make a decision. If its because of his feelings towards you then ditch him. If its because of some crazy kicking leg or elephant snoring then you'll work it out =o)
  • Feb 24, 2010, 07:30 AM
    dynocompe

    How long have you two been dating? You say it's a new relationship, maybe he isn't comfortable actually going to sleep in the same bed yet, who knows, maybe he snores, kicks, sleep walks, and doesn't feel comfortable doing that stuff around you yet. It's a new relationship.
  • Feb 24, 2010, 07:51 AM
    Romefalls19

    There are a lot of reasons he might not sleep in the same bed. It's hard to adjust to having personal room to then having none. I don't think you should end the relationship over that, ask him first
  • Feb 24, 2010, 07:53 AM
    dynocompe

    By the multiple threads you started on the same topic, and the way you type, you don't seem like you guys are old enough to be sleeping the same bed anyway
  • Mar 30, 2010, 05:04 PM
    Stratmando

    Mary had to leave for family matters, miss her, but it is nice knowing I'm not Elbowinging her, poking her in the eyes or something else. And If he has Restless Legs Syndrome, or coughs or something, he may not want to disturb you or your sleep.
    He should be able to tell you.
  • Mar 30, 2010, 05:15 PM
    Homegirl 50

    Well I'm thinking if you can't ask a man you're having sex with why he will not sleep in the same bed with you, you have a larger problem.
    Do you two live together?
    Do you to talk to each other?
    My advice to you is, don't have sex with someone who cannot or will not talk to you, and don't have sex with someone you are too embarrassed to talk to. That's a bit like putting the cart before the horse.

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