Recently broken up with girlfriend, confused.
Five days ago my girlfriend ended our relationship of 10 months saying she couldn't be involved in a relationship right now.
We had been arguing lately (which we never used to) over the last few weeks over a few things and this lead to us agreeing to a 2 week break from each other. We never set any rules for this but on day one, day two and day three (twice) my girlfriend text me asking how I was and telling me what she had been up to and stuff. On day four I had't heard from her so I thought OK I'll text her and she replied without a problem. Later that eveing (about 5 hours after my first text) I text again saying ''Hey you OK :) ?'' I then instantly got a phone call saying why am I texting her when we are meant to be on a break and that Im pressuring her... She then said she can't be in a relationship atm.
The next day she called again in the evening and we both talked over stuff. She explained to me that she had a few issues she needed to sort out in her own life and couldn't do that whilst in a relationship. She then said to me she loves me and wants me in her life still.
She then said something that confused/made me think about things. She said I'm not saying I never want to be with you again I just can't right now. Now, would someone who thought there was absolutely no hope of us getting back together sometime in the future say this? I know I wouldn't if I knew I was totally done with someone.
I then also realised if I say I love her then I have to let her go and get her head sorted with these problems she was having and it would be selfish of me to not let her go.
After the initial shock and upset (Im still hurting now of course) I thought I can approach this two ways. I can wollow in self pity and lay in bed crying and wishing things were different or I get on with things and take what she said that we still remain in contact and in a few months if we both still want this then we can maybe get back together.
If we do decide to get back together (which I am really hoping happens) then great and if we don't then at least I will have got on with things and we can remain friends and then I can maybe think about moving on.
Since we had that talk on the phone on Saturday night I haven't contacted her first. She has though the last two days text me asking how I am and what I have been doing. Does this show she is thinking of me? I even got a text at 1:45 am asking how I was.
I guess what Im asking is if she thought there was no hope of a future getting back together would she have said she is not saying she never wants to be with me again? And is the texting from her daily a sign she misses me ?
Recently broke up finding it hard to cope...
So my girlfriend ended things about 3 weeks ago. Stating she couldn't do a relationship atm but she loves me and wants us to stay close and in a month or two once she has sorted her issues out we can maybe get back together...
Since we broke up she has been contacting me. Texting me at least once a day and she has twice called up drunk in tears saying how much she loves me and hates that she has hurt me but keeps saying just give her some time and then we can see.
I was kind of feeling OK about things up until last Thursday when she came to get her stuff and it all came flooding back. Seeing her made my heart literally drop knowing she was no longer my girlfriend... After she left I went out and sat in a park for what must have been 2 or 3 hours going over and over things.
Since she left I haven't been able to stop thinking about all the good times we had even simple things remind me of her. The thing she keeps saying give her some time and in a month or two we can maybe get back together keeps repeating in my head. But if we don't get back together I fear I may feel even worse then I do right now.
Im just finding it a bit hard to stop thinking about her and the relationship we had. I keep checking her FB page (even though she took me off... ) just to see what she's doing and I don't know why I am :confused:
I love her so much and wish so much that something would click in her head and that we can get back together.
Im 25 and have had gf's before but I have never gone through this pain and feeling of being so drained emotionally and it seems to be getting worse as the days go on and not better.