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  • Feb 21, 2010, 07:43 PM
    Code_Zero
    Oh a love problem
    Well I have a bit of problem , I usually solve my own problems but I'm really confused. Well you see, I have 1 girl I like, but she now has a boyfriend. Well this is how it all started, we were friends for 2 years , in the beginning I didn't liked her, but after 1,5 or more I started liking her. Well the problem starts there. I was preparing to ask her out and 3-4 days before when I wanted to ask her out , she started talking about there is some boy she likes and stuff like that. Well I started thinking that she will reject me, and I started thinking is it still wise to ask her out. And then one day, she told me that she has 2 good news (well bad for me). 1st one was that she is now with that guy , and second one is that her best friend has crush on me. Ahh more complications right? And I said to her that I don't want to be with her. She already was with guy so I thought it was stupid so I didn't said anything to her. And to worsen situation, one of my idiotic friend told her that I was with some other girl, well that girl also had crush and probably she told my friend that she was with me or something like that. And I ended up that the girl I like wanted to help me and her to gain some relationship despite that I'm saying that I don't want to have anything with her friend. What should I do.
  • Feb 21, 2010, 08:14 PM
    Scleros
    That's less of a problem and more self-imposed misery for not taking advantage of an opportunity when you could. Six months is a long time to be sitting on your keister quietly having feelings. Always seize the day, buddy. Sink or swim with no regrets. If your sweetie actually is with that guy and didn't just give you a line because she saw your advances coming, I suspect she knows how you feel about her and is offering up her friend to you as a consolation prize. How strong are your feelings? Best thing you could do is be dating someone else entirely. Wouldn't hurt if this someone made both of them jealous, not that I'm advocating such a characteristic in lieu of your true feelings for this other person. Here's some motivation, if you don't purge or cope with your feelings for this gal to get over her, you may just get invited to her and this guy's wedding down the road. Could you handle that?
  • Feb 21, 2010, 08:24 PM
    Code_Zero
    Oh well, 6 month ago I wasn't that sure like you said I didn't knew what it was friends liking or love, this all happened this year.


    Well I thought I was too long to write but anyway. I started loving her this year, but I didn't had much time to spend with her, and time I had I ruined it lol.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 08:46 AM
    talaniman
    You didn't start loving her a while ago, you were attracted, and wanted her. Love is a verb that requires actions, and since you had none, there is no love. Secondly, since she is so unavailable, you move on, and cope with your feelings, by accepting she has feelings for another, and start looking at other options, and opportunities that are around you. That makes more sense than holding on to something you know ain't happening now. That's reality. Now let go of what you have no control over, and get with the reality, or be stuck, and left out of the fun.

    You don't have to go with someone who is pushed your way, you can always choose someone you want, and see what happens. That's your choice so take it.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 04:48 PM
    Code_Zero

    Yeah you totally right XD

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