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  • Feb 21, 2010, 06:58 AM
    mathew086
    Why is she not loving me back?
    Ì love a girl very much .I like to talk with her, I like being with her, I like seeing her. We were very good friends. One day I expressed my feelings to her. She said she can see me only as a friend. She said she is not able to have any love feelings to me.
    But I can't forget her. I need her in my life. I can't stop thinking of her. I think of her every minute of my day even if am at work.

    How can I win her love? As each day goes by, I feel I am ruining my life myself. Please help...
  • Feb 21, 2010, 07:13 AM
    sully123

    There is nothing you can do to change the situation. You expressed your feelings to her. If you keep on pushing her you are going to ruin your friendship with her. YOU can't win her love, by pestering her and begging. You never heard of people being friends for a long time, later on down the road, it blossoms into a relationship. Be her friend right now, and leave things alone. You might risk everything if you keep on pushing.
  • Feb 21, 2010, 07:31 AM
    I wish
    You can't force her to love you. She either does or doesn't. It has to happen naturally. You can't feed her a potion to magically fall in love with you.

    If you can't handle a friendship (without continually having false hope), then keep her out of her life until your feelings for her have gone away, so that you don't have to continue to suffer.
  • Feb 21, 2010, 09:31 AM
    talaniman

    You can't control the feelings of another, you can only accept them, and move on. In time you will see that it ain't going to happen, and you will move on. It will take time, so do other things besides cry over her. Happens to us all at on time or another, the one we love and want, doesn't love us back.

    You have to learn to cope with these things.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 04:59 AM
    mathew086

    Ok.. but how can I be her friend again? I can't think about her even for a minute and I have already said this to her. So how can say to her that I ll be her friend again?
  • Feb 22, 2010, 05:53 AM
    amicon

    I think you need to ask yourself if you can handle a friendship,feeling the way you do.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 06:18 AM
    talaniman

    Being her friend will take time also. Sorry, but your healing comes first and the rest will fall in place.

    Its hard to just be friends until you cope with your disappointment, and loss, because you will always be hoping for more. That will only bring you more misery.
  • Feb 22, 2010, 09:53 AM
    kjsunj

    You no friendship.. I broke up with my girlfriend but she wanted me be to her friend.. becasue I'm a good boy.. but I don't want her to be my friend.. why? I know it will hurt me badly if I see her holding another guys hand.. if I hold other girls hands.. she said she would be fine if it helps me.. this time I need to learn a lot of things.. and this lesson needs a lot of tear and saddness... haha..
  • Feb 22, 2010, 10:07 AM
    I wish

    If you only want to be friends with her in hopes that she might change her feelings about you, then you're just setting yourself up for disappointment.

    If you're looking for a genuine friendship, then the first thing you need to do is get over your feelings for her, so that you don't have this false hope upon yourself. Secondly, a friendship occurs naturally. You don't force a friendship.

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