I'm 14 and I convinced my parents that I needed a therapist for anger problems hoping that it help me stop cutting. But every time I go I end up feeling empty afterwards and going home and cutting myself. My parents don't know that I cut and I don't really want to tell them the therapy is not helping what should I do?

You can only get from therapy what you put into it.

If the therapist isn't helping you,find another, let your parents know that this one just isn't connecting with you and you aren't getting any relief.

At some point you should tell them that you cut, it's the shame that's making you keep it in.That shame only keeps you continuing down the road of cutting.The longer you keep it a secret,the longer this will continue.. look at the other posts concerning cutting in this site, they might help you see what other cutters have gone through, what others have offered for advice.

I guess it depends on whether you are ready to help yourself or not. If you are serious about wanting to stop cutting yourself, then there are some steps you will NEED to take. The first one is to tell your parents what you are doing, the second is to get honest with the people in your life who are trying to help you, the therapist included. And the third one is to do what they suggest. You are not likely to get through this on your own, so I guess it will depend how desperate you are to help yourself. I have a son your age. He understands what I mean when I tell him his thoughts aren't real, they are just his thoughts. Go tell your parents, like, right now - the first step to saving your own life. X

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Originally Posted by Red Rain132

I'm 14 and i convinced my parents that i needed a therapist for anger problems hoping that it help me stop cutting. But everytime i go i end up feeling empty afterwards and going home and cutting myself. my parents don't know that i cut and i don't really want to tell them the therapy is not helping what should i do?

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Tell the therapist this. That's why you are there. This is VERY important information for the therapist to know. Why are you keeping it a secret from him?

There are several reasons people engage in cutting so I encourage you to continue to work on yourself with this person or another.

1. Tell your parents.
2. Tell your therapist this and also when you leave session, write down your thoughts/beliefs and feelings associated to those thoughts/beliefs.
3. Therapy is never a quick fix but solid long-standing well-being can be he result.
4. You can always change therapists-just try to understand what you are actually expecting from your therapist.
5. Process your expectations with him/her.
6. You may be doing better than you think even though you reverted to prior behavior.