I met my girlfriend about 2 years ago on the internet. We began dating about a month after we began meeting. She is about a 2 1/2 hour drive away and I see her on the weekends. I use to see her more often but she recently got a full time job. I am a full time college student so it has been hard to see each other. Even though we see each other on the weekends it feel like its not enough. I made a terrible mistake by telling her that it wasn't going to work out. After a day I felt like I made a terrible mistake. I felt so empty. I've been madly in love with her for a while now and it hurts that we are not together. I asked her if she wanted to work things out and she said she just wants to be friends right now. She said she is very stressed about her new job and all the pressure being put on her by her family and that she doesn't have time for a relationship right now. I think this breakdown may have had to do with me being upset because she goes out with her friends as soon as she gets home from work to relieve the stress. I don't mind if she goes out but it sucks when I can't talk to her before I go to sleep like I use to. She said things could change in the future. I told her I would give her space and time and that I just wanted the best for her. I love her so much that it is bothering me that there is a chance that she won't come back. What do I do? Any advice? This is my first long term relationship so I need all the tips I can get. Thank You.

You are too hasty in making the statement, sometimes the words that come out do not be withdrawn. For the recovery efforts here are a few ways:
1. follow whatever he want, if he wants your relationship just as friends never mind what. Do it
2. give more attention, but do not overdo it because he will be disturbed
3. try to understand what he wants! Here you start menanykana her closest friends and who menanykan about your boyfriend. And you if do what he likes.
Maybe it was... thanks

Thanks but its my girlfriend. I'm not a girl. LoL but thanks for the help.

She is no longer interested in you. She has found someone at work and since you two guys are far apart she do not see any reason why she continue dating you. She don't love you the same as you love her. I'd suggest you move on with your life and meet new girls out there, forget about her. If you guys are destined to be together, she will come back to you, but don't put your hopes up and do not wait for her

Huuum... I think you don't have to forget it was you who first said that it wasn't going to work.
Yes it was a huge mistake cause words like this are hard to hear and even if you didn't mean it don't forget she's not in your head.
You just can't hurt her and expect her to be happy after that. Just continue trying to make her realise you are sorry and you will do your best to make things work even if you can't see each other as usually as you did before.If she's still in love it should work.

Whatever happpened, happened. Now it is time to focus on the recovery rather than the past. I suggest going No Contact. Start healing yourself by letting go of the past. Focus on your studies, hang out with friends, and live your life.

As for your decision. At the time you made it for a reason and I am pretty sure you spent some time thinking about your decision before making it. Now that she is gone feel like you need her back just because you might feel guilt, etc...

"You always want what you can't have."

You couldn't do the distance thing, and that's cool. We all miss the good times after a break up, and while that's normal, it takes time to adjust to the changes.

Go back to what you were doing before she came along, and even explore new people, places, and things where you are, until you get beyond your feelings of loss, and above all, leave her alone.

We all go through these things, and just because you lost the first real relationship, get ready for the second. Yes there is always another one waiting for you.

Heck man, there is probably dozens of babes who you will like, and get with, before one ties you to her post.

The secret is enjoy it while it lasts. Accept it when its gone, and move on to the next one. Take your time in between, because there is no hurry.

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

She is no longer interested in you. She has found someone at work and since you two guys are far apart she do not see any reason why she continue dating you. She dont love you the same as you love her. I'd suggest you move on with your life and meet new girls out there, forget about her. If you guys are destined to be together, she will come back to you, but dont put your hopes up and do not wait for her

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You are giving someone else relationship advice? Boy, now THAT is a joke!

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I waited for the girl I'm with for over a year and change and I don't regret a single day of it.. we've been together now for 5 months and Ive never been happier. The "stress" and all that **** sounds like a coverup to me, she probably wanted out of the relationship to begin with and just didn't know how to tell you or thinks you were seeing someone else who knows. Try talking to her about it and ask for an honest answer and say you guys will still be friends no matter what, has worked for me on numerous occasions.