Im in a rut, become possessive, and miserable. She's asked for a break.
So yeah, over the last 6 months I've gotten really possessive which I hate, Im in a huge rut after graduating and not knowing where Im at, Im also quite grouchy about pretty much everything. Its been driving my girlfriend mad for a while then she finally asked for a break.
She said exactly this on Saturday. I want a break to think about what I want. During the break we won't see other people. I'll call you next weekend to see where we're at.
She finished, I don't know what's gotten into you but if you keep going, you're pushing your friends away, you're pushing me away, you'll have nobody left.
I admit to everything, it is all my fault.
Now how do I fix everything before its too late?
Really need some help on this one, I've never been like this in my life!
Thanks
My girlfriend is depressed and wants me to wait 3 months for her
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So as I stated in my previous post, I am in a rut. Im finally doing something about it. My girlfriend was right to ask for time apart but the situation has turned a little. She is very unhappy with where she is right now at school. She hates living there with the people she lives with, gets very little sleep at night because her flat mates are inconsiderate and this makes her generally feel terrible, add the stress of school work and she's not in a great position. She's actually been feeling really low lately and can't wait to come home for good in May.
We've met up since she asked for the break and kind of got into an argument that the situation wasn't fair on either of us. Other than me getting my act together, she told me she believes some of the blame is on her, she thinks her mood is bringing me down too.
Now she's been crying pretty much every night for hours for the past 2 months and has put me in a really unfair position. She told me about this over a week ago and told me not to tell anybody as she hasn't informed anybody else. I told her to seek help but she claims she wants to do this on her own.
She said we won't be good together until we both fix our problems, which I certainly agree with. She said she'll probably feel in a much better state when she finally comes home and asked me to wait 3 months for her so we could give it another shot.
I initially said yes and we agreed we wouldn't see other people and that she still wanted to keep contact. I asked if we would definitely have a good go at things when she comes home but she says she doesn't know, only if we're better.
I got a little annoyed and thought it was unfair of her to ask me to wait 3 months for her if it wasn't certain we would give it another try. She didn't like that at all and got annoyed at me. She said 3 months is no time to wait and said I obviously have other options otherwise I would wait.
What if I wait 3 months and when she comes home she doesn't want to give it another shot?
I'd follow the rules on here and just cut the contact with her. I suggested that would be a better idea and she said, well if you're going to act like that I don't want you in my life at all.
So basically what she's asking is, I wait 3 months for her, she comes home and may or may not give it another chance.
Is this a fair deal?
I also don't want to cut the contact with her because she's in a vulnerable position and she's put me in a bad position by telling me about her depression but doesn't want me to inform anybody.
I feel like Im in a no win situation.
I asked her a second time over the phone that I can only wait if we're definitely giving it another shot and she said she couldn't say for sure, only if she felt better with herself. She also told me she loved me on the phone.
Can anybody shed any light on this?
Ps, to those who read my previous post. Ive contacted the people who offered me the move to the US and we're working on my options right now. I can initially go for a 3 month period which is a lot better for me than moving perm so yeah, I'll be working on that during this time.