Hi I have asked a question on here before you might remember me, but I have a new question about the same man. I am dating my boyfriend who lives 2 states away and now says he will not being moving to europe and so we should date. He has thought about it and would like to visit and see how things go. I got upset at hime one night before this and didn't talk to him for 3 days. He emailed me and we started talking about getting back together and now we are. I think the plan is to date for a while, and if the visits go well we will eventually move in together. I really care about this person and he loves me too, but it is hard to keep the feelings because he is so far away! I guess I have questions not about whether we should date because no one can change my opinion of trying, but do you think he is serious about me if he asked me out again and said he really misses me? I am far away and maybe when I didn't talk to him tose days he realised what he was missing? But sometimes I wonder what he's feeling and he doesn't say a whole lot other than we will see each other and talk, see then.

Long distance relationships are always pretty difficult, but communication, and trust, are probably the two biggest and most essential factors. You have to communicate with him and trust that when he says he misses you and loves you, he means it. I myself have had issues with this type of thing and you just have to learn to trust him. If you feel that he is not really communicating and just waiting until he sees you, then maybe you should tell him you want to communicate more?
Have faith, everything happens for a reason

Hello Blondie, As the previous poster has said long distance relationships are VERY difficult to manage, just because of the personal interplay between people is lacking, leading to a lot of confusion. I advise you go slow and make sure the questions in your mind are answered to your satisfaction before even considering to move in with each other. Take your time to really get to know him before you make that big commitment. What's the hurry to jump into a life changing circumstance, with what is basically a stranger. Don't be pressured by anyone at this point, without being fully aware of who this person is and what he is about. Check it out, have fun, and move at your own pace.

There is a lot of history in this relationship and I think you will find it difficult to make it work.

It is hard with the distance and what you have been through previously with him.

I just hope that you are concentrating on your child's well being as well!

Skell there is not a lot of history... what are you judging me for? I have had long term relationships with a lot more history. This guy and I do fine but since he moved I'm worried. That doesn't mean we shouldn't be together. Id like to know about your ty relationships for once. You seem to know a lot about them and never giv one positive piece of advice. If I see you answer my question again I will find a new site. So please spare me the search for a new site Skell.

Im sorry blondie for offering my advice.

Since my post I have changed my mind.

I think the two of you should and will be together. It isn't very hard to maintain a long distance relationship.

I think you should give up whatever you have where you currently are and move to wherever it is he is.

After all you can't go too fast in relationships and you should never let anything get in the way of true love such as this. Anything...

Oh sorry blondie.

Sorry for just offering my thoughts. I wasn't trying to judge you...

You don't have to change sites though. Just block me!

You just have a problem hearing what you don't want to hear.
You want people to tell you what you want to hear. That will get you a long way!!

Good luck!

No I have hear negative answers before skell, but yours are said in backstabbing, jealous coniving ways. That's the vibe I get. And now that I know I can block you I hope you cannot read my mail either!

How are they backstabbing and coniving.

They aren't at all.

I wasn't saying you never considered your son.

I just meant that if you are thinking about moving to where this guy is and living with him that you consider the affects, positive and negative, that it may have on your current situation.

Not once have I tried to back stab or connive.

It is just a simple fact that LDR's are hard and that you seem to have some issues with his feeling for you and it will be hard to work.

Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear, but hey, that's life. Get used to it!

This is what I based my answer, on and yes I knew you had a son, which figure's heavily in my answer to you. Children come first, before a love life, that's just me.


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I appreciate your answer and i agree my son comes first! I just do not like skell is that a sin?

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Originally Posted by blondieinCAN

I APPRECIATE YOUR ANSWER AND i AGREE MY SON COMES FIRST!! i JUST DO NOT LIKE sKELL IS THAT A SIN?

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Careful, the last time I had a blow up with a female I had to marry her. And she still doesn't lke me! Now that's a SIN.