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How to know if a girl is using you

I really like this girl a lot and she knows about it. She does talk to me but in a confusing manner, a moment she shows signs that she likes me then snap the next is like you are better far off...
When I ask for her feelings she says that 'she is not that type of girl' and there cannot be anything between us as our relation ship is poor.
I am confused can some one helppppppppp please...
Confused soul

Well I don't think she is using you, because she is telling you straight out that there is going to be no relationship. SHe isn't leading you on to believe that something is going to grow between you to. I would drop her, and stop wasting your time

Forget about her. She's told you that there can't be any type of relationship with you, so back off.

Stop spending your time worrying about how she feels and get out there and find someone that cares.

Talaniman Rule-Never try to get with someone that tells you to your face she isn't interested in romance with you.

If the relationship is that poor, then leave her alone. Why are you trying to force something with someone that's not interested in YOU??

She's told you, she's not using you... she's just not interested.

Time to move on.

Thanks to all the people who answered my question, I had moved on and very rarely got in touch with her except for her calling me sometimes for some work, but offlate she has been fighting with me asking why I don't call her and meet her like before... any answers to this please ?

@dynocompe
Had done the same long time back, got a call day before yesterday from her and she started to fight... telling that I never call or meet like before...

Don't buy into her mind games-ignore her attempts at communication.
Keep moving on.

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Originally Posted by amicon

Don't buy into her mind games-ignore her attempts at communication.
Keep moving on.

Thanks a ton amicon for the reply... will have to try hard but will succeed I know for sure... will move on... :)

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She has been fighting with me asking why I don't call her and meet her like before.

Tell her your tired of fighting.

Tell her, exactly what you told us, she said she would never want a relationship with you, and tell her your not one to just fool around, so if there is going to be no relationship, there is no point in playing her games.
You weren't suppose to answer her call hahaha
I knew she would call you, don't let her yell at you, the ball is in your court now! You have her wanting you. She is probably just lonely, and does not have you to fall back on anymore. She is still just trying to play you. I would let her know what you think about her ways.
And that's that. Put her in her place, because this girl thinks she is all that. And be on your way

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Originally Posted by skcrew

Thanks to all the people who answered my question, I had moved on and very rarely got in touch with her except for her calling me sometimes for some work, but offlate she has been fighting with me asking why i dont call her and meet her like before......any answers to this please ?

If you have to have contact with her for work purposes, be polite and keep conversations limited to work subjects only.

If you don't, then politely tell her to not contact you again. You don't have to give her a reason. She already has it. Stop answering her calls, delete texts, emails, and voice mail. Give yourself some time to get over her and whatever she is attempting and, when you are ready, you will find someone who wants to be with you.

Let me guess. Is she 16? That's how she's acting.

She wants you to chase her and when you do she pushes you away. When you don't she calls and asks why not. She's playing games. She wants you to want her even though she doesn't want you, but for you to reject her, that's not okay in her book.

Walk away, be nice, tell her you're no longer interested, wish her luck and then end it, no communication.

You deserve to be with someone that wants you just as much as you want them. If she wants to play games she should get an Xbox. ;)

Good luck.

@dynocompe
Thanks for the advise... will not answer her calls any more... NO CONTACT... :-)

@Talaniman
Your advice taken... will act and advise the outcome

Thanks to both of you... :-)

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

If you have to have contact with her for work purposes, be polite and keep conversations limited to work subjects only.

If you don't, then politely tell her to not contact you again. You don't have to give her a reason. She already has it. Stop answering her calls, delete texts, emails, and voice mail. Give yourself some time to get over her and whatever she is attempting and, when you are ready, you will find someone who wants to be with you.

Thanks for the advise... will follow that... hope to have positive results... and me being the winner... thanks guys for the support and help

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Let me guess. Is she 16? That's how she's acting.

She wants you to chase her and when you do she pushes you away. When you don't she calls and asks why not. She's playing games. She wants you to want her even though she doesn't want you, but for you to reject her, that's not okay in her book.

Walk away, be nice, tell her you're no longer interested, wish her luck and then end it, no communication.

You deserve to be with someone that wants you just as much as you want them. If she wants to play games she should get an Xbox. ;)

Good luck.

Nope she is not 16 she is almost 30 now... but behaves as if she is 16... told her to grow up cpl of times but all in vain...
Yep... gud idea... let her buy a xbox... and not play with me...
Thanks for all your advise and support...