My best friend and I really really like the same guy. Only thing is, I kind of told him not to flirt with me anymore because it was an online thing and we hadn't met. He had, however, met my friend. Well me and him met in person yesterday, and I have strong feelings for him, but my friend thinks that I have no chance because I told him I didn't want to fall for him. Now we're flirting a lot. He is super sweet, and keeps telling me I'm really pretty and calling me cutie. And I know more about him than my friend does, and I really like him. I don't want to screw up our friendship, but I'm REALLLy into this guy, and he's exactly what I need. Oh one more minor issue... he's 21 and we're both 17... WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Guy is 21 I am 17... legal age of consent in MD is 16, so it is legal for me to have sex with him, right?

Unfortunately yes it is legal.

I know you're going to do whatever you want so I'm not even going to bother discouraging you from having sex. Just at least use protection and make sure you both have a clean bill of health BEFORE you have sex. I'd hate to have you back here next month asking "am i pregnant?" or "do i have an std?"

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...uy-447355.html

Wait a minute... is this the same guy as the other thread? If so, what the heck are you doing even considering sex if you've only just met him?

Is this the same guy? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/legal-447472.html

Run for the hills, run as fast as you can! This guy sounds like a pervert. He only wants a piece of fresh meat and that's you!

Yeah same guy, but my friend posted this... she used my log in for some reason..

So you both like him. But she's already thinking of having sex with him?

Apparently.

Threads merged (for obvious reasons)

You need to get out of there. If your friend is stupid enough to even be interested in a perv, let her have him. But warn her first, of course.

The best thing you can do is stay away from him. If he is 21 and if you are only 17 it may be legal but it is also dangerous. How much do you know about this guy? I would suggest finding out something about him. Think with your brain instead of your hormones. Think about AIDS and all the other STDs you could get. Think about getting pregnant and having a baby! With the two of you as parents, that child wouldn't stand a chance.

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Originally Posted by jaime90

You need to get out of there. If your friend is stupid enough to even be interested in a perv, let her have him. But warn her first, of course.

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Ok, lets tone it down a bit. We don't even know if the guy has asked for sex yet! All we know is that (allegedly) the friend used the OP's computer to ask if it would be legal. Also 21-17 is not really perv status.

IF he has asked for sex at this point in the relationship with either girl, then he would seem to be a predator, not necessarily a perv.

It did help and I do get carried away sorry ScottGem.

I agree. Okay, if the guy didn't ask for sex, I would still stay away from him when it comes to relationships until you know more about him. Even if he doesn't want sex, he is still sending the same "signals" to two girls at the same time, which doesn't look good.

You haven't met in life yet, only online. How do you know that he is not a rapist? How do you know that he is not a kidnapper? How do you know that he is really 21 and not 56?

Don't do something this foolish.

Thank you for your concern everyone, and thank you ScottGem for toning this down a bit.
As of now we have met in person, twice. Once with friends, once alone, and everything seems to be safe. I just want the advice on what I should do about my best friend liking him. Turns out, she also likes a couple other guys (no surprise with her) . But she still gets mad every time I mention this guy. Like I'm even considering not telling her we hung out today.
Please help me with THIS issue, and stop calling him a perv/predator, because believe it or not, even though I am only 17, I am very cautious about who I get involved with. And for the record, No he has NOT asked for sex.

I had a friend just like that. Key word is "had." she called "dibs" on every guy, like they were her property and only she was allowed to like them. There was a guy that we both liked (although she didn't bother telling me that she liked him until after I started seeing him) and he liked me so we started seeing each other. After lots of drama from her, our friendship ended. That was actually how most of her friendships ended, she'd get jealous of another relationship. It didn't even have to be someone else's boyfriend. It could just be an ordinary friend. You two have to decide if you're going to let a guy come between you two or not. If you can work it out, great. If you can't, well, shows how close of friends you are.

Today she told me he visited her at work. She was all happy. I told her that I also saw him today, she got mad and told me I don't care about how she feels about this issue. So let me get this straight... its okay for them to see each other even though id be disappointed if they became a couple, but its not okay for me and him to see each other... I'm lost.