I have been seeing this boy for nearly three months, and I care for him deeply. There is one problem though. He always thinks he is worthless and recently tried to harm himself. I had to hold him down many times, but I don't think I will be able to stop him next time. I had to send him to a hospital to get help, but he walked the long way back to my house and pelted our windows with snowballs, scaring my family half to death. I want to be with him, but I don't know if I can take this stress anymore. This relatioship seems to be going nowhere. What should I do?

How old is he? Does his family know about his mental condition?

You need to make certain there is someone with the ability to attempt to help him. One of his parents would probably be best if it at all possible.

Unfortunately, he will have to want to help himself for anything to aid him in making the changes that are needed to help his outlook on himself and life improve. You may need to help yourself and, ultimately, him by removing yourself from the situation. If you do, be prepared to need to get a restraining order. His snowball 'attack' speaks volumes for how he deals with anger and upset.

Good luck.

End it now. He needs more help than you can provide him with.

Relationships are tough enough without having to deal with a boyfriend who's emotionally unstable.

If you want to be happy and have a healthy relationship, you'll get away from him FAST!! You deserve much better!

I would be glad its going no where, sorry, but he doenst sound like a great catch

He needs help. Get out now.

I've been telling you this forever, leave him... He is bringing you down. He needs help desperately and only us two seem to see it

Girl, you can be completely honest on here. Trust me. No one judges. The more details you put on here, the better help you'll get!

He is a loser, I know you love him and had plans with him but HE ISN'T WORTH IT!

I've seen you change and it isn't good.

You know I love you

The real question is how long are you willing to put up with this??

If you really love this guy the best thing you can do for him is leave him so he can get the help he needs to get better.

Sometimes we really do just need to be cruel to be kind.

Sweetie.. I don't know what else to say. His parents are the one who need to take care of him. Don't feel guilty about walking away, you have to for your sake. This stressing you out and that isn't good.

You can't stop him from doing these things to himself, so don't let yourself be a crutch. Please remove yourself from this.

How old is this guy? Can't the local police do something to protect you and get him committed?

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How old is this guy? Can't the local police do something to protect you and get him committed?

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I'm getting OP's permission to reveal this information

She doesn't want me to tell...

I have to respect that

But I think the more info the better

There is nothing more you could do, you putting much effort to make your relationship work but he is not even trying to do the same. I suggest you leave him and get yourself a matured boyfriend. He seems like he's got mentality issues and self-esteem problems, so let the experts deal with him and his psycho behaviour, and you my girl move on with your life. You are waisting your time when you with him.

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I have been seeing this boy for nearly three months, and I care for him deeply. There is one problem though. He always thinks he is worthless and recently tried to harm himself. I had to hold him down many times, but I dont think I will be able to stop him next time. I had to send him to a hospital to get help, but he walked the long way back to my house and pelted our windows with snowballs, scaring my family half to death. I want to be with him, but I dont know if I can take this stress anymore. This relatioship seems to be going nowhere. What should I do?

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Tell them the whole story. It'll help. Explaining things also gives yourself a new point of view on your problems. I've learned that quick

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Tell them the whole story. It'll help. Explaining things also gives yourself a new point of view on your problems. I've learned that quick

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I hope she takes the advice we have given her.

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I hope she takes the advice we have given her.

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I think she may

She will take it if she knows what is good for her or if she want to have a better relationship

I'm not quite sure what you are saying

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I think she may

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You are a good friend and if you can persuade her to stay and listen to the advice,I think she may get out of this relationship.