Hi Y'all,
I have never orgasm since I started sexing. I however, have had great pleasure of enjoying the sex itself. But I wonder why orgasm has never happened. It is not that when I am having sex, am thinking about the orgasm, no. I have just been thinking lately about it and I wonder... at some point my boyfriend felt that I 'lock it in' or something. Should I be doing something to stimulate this. At this rate am afraid I might die without ever experiencing what orgasm is all about.

Please help.

Have you tried bringing yourself to orgasm by masturbating? It is the easiest way to find what works for you. Some women find that direct stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse can help. That can be with fingers, a vibrator, a change of positions (sometimes a very slight change), etc.

Don't be worried if it takes a lot of experimenting on your own and with your boyfriend to find out what works for you. Just remember to practice safe sex.

Try to masturbate,or to get more relaxed and have a higher chance have your boyfriend do it for you.Sometimes I have sex and don't orgasm myself.

As already mentioned, if you aren't self stimulating by yourself to get to the big O, please do. You have to work to know your own body.

Second, this "problem" isn't rare... but the "answer" isn't one fits all either.

My experience is that different lovers can have very, very different needs. My first big love could never get to orgasm with oral, and often could with intercourse, no matter the position. She loved sex in public places or where we might be caught... the risk thrill factor was big for her.

Another lover could often get off w intercourse, but it was absolutely money in the bank if she or I stimulated her cl!toris during sex with a wet finger. I mean every time she could get there. But she could tolerate much stronger stim than most other lovers. Without self stim, she still had good odds, but with self stim, it was guaranteed.

The next lover would smack me upside the head for being so rough. That girl could never get off missionary. She could sometimes get there girl on top, esp with self cl!toral stim, but never with intercourse and my manually stimulating her. She could get to orgasm always with oral, if it was done patiently and softly. She didn't like sex where we might be seen or caught. It mentally distracted her.

So... guess what I'm saying is it's a learning process.

And I'm personally a huge fan of a woman who is willing to self stimulate during sex. First, I think its damn sexy. I'm not offended. I know how the anatomy is arranged and the stim the woman receives may not be what she needs. Second, it just works for many.

If you haven't self stimulated in front of him, and feel odd about it, one way to do this is to stim yourself while you are stimulating him with your other hand... even if this doesn't get you to orgasm, what with the mental gymnastics of using both hands, it can get him used to the idea... if he is uncomfortable with a woman touching herself... well... I live on a completely different planet.

I have a ton of different ideas, but start there. Do you self stim to orgasm and would you be willing to do so during sex?

Orgasm is a wonderful feeling someone yag experienced during sex. And everyone really wanted this. I really understand what you are feeling. Okay start:
1. find your weak spot, make your sex partner is always hit that point. So you will be more easy to fly.
2. find a comfortable pair of sex, I mean here is not easy out sperm, so you can feel the friction between the penis and the vagina longer.
3. make your feelings may be in senyamana sex.
4. you try to have sex when you are really in that fertile vaginal mucus can be produced maksmal.
5. let pleasure sex what you want most, so your mind will be increasingly easier to do orgasm.
Thanks