I need Major help with a relationship?
Hey, I been dating this girl for a month now and a lot of people are bothering us because we want to keep our relationship a secret because of her parents, and well now it out of control a lot of people know a lot of people bothering her and she worried that her parents might find out what should we do? And I really do love her and she loves me. Please give us advice on what to do :confused:

Why does she want to keep this relationship secret?

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Originally Posted by J_9

Why does she want to keep this relationship secret?

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Because she doesn't know how her parents would react

Secrets like this always come out. I think you two should tell her parents before they find out from someone else.

Why do you want to keep it a secret? How old are you two?

React to what? Are you from mars with a green head, six legs and speak gibberish?

Come on now we need to know exactly why she is afraid to tell her parents. How old are the both of you?

Why would her parents react in a bad way? Is she not allowed to date anyone?

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Originally Posted by Mixboy400

Because she doesn't know how her parents would react

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They're going to be more upset if they find out that you're dating and hiding it.

Time to face the music and tell them.

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Originally Posted by Mixboy400

I need Major help with a relationship?
Hey, I been dating this girl for a month now and alot of people are bothering us because we want to keep our relationship a secret because of her parents, and well now it out of control alot of people know alot of people bothering her and she worried that her parents might find out what should we do? And i really do love her and she loves me. please give us advice on what to do :confused:

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Okay we are 17, and because she thinks her parents will kick her out or something

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Originally Posted by Mixboy400

okay we are 17, and because she thinks her parents will kick her out or something

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okay her parents like me and everything I just don't see why she afraid to tell them, I guess she afraid that they will keep us away from each other. But we talk 24/7 on the phone and off I been in her room and stuff she want to tell her mom but I guess she afraid of her dad

Let go, I think she is playing you she isn't afraid of her parents, she is just trying to keep her doors open for other men. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I have been in a similar relationship, the best love is open love.

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Originally Posted by IamMeyouAreyou

Let go, i think she is playing you she isn't afraid of her parents, she is just trying to keep her doors open for other men. Perhaps I'm wrong, but i have been in a similar relationship, the best love is open love.

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I do not agree with this in the least.

Some teens have a relationship with their parents in which they seriously do not want to disappoint them. This girl really could be afraid of what her parents would think.

I was in a relationship once - one that I hid from my Mom. It was shortly after my Dad passed away and I didn't want to hurt her, because I knew that the person I was seeing wouldn't measure up. But I was "in love" so I hid it.

The reason why I suggested that the OP and his girlfriend tell her parents is because parents always find out... and then it is worse.

It is better that they are the ones to tell them... rather than the parents find out from another set of parents.

You better tell her parents. Anything is better than living in fear of them finding out anyway.

Hey, they have to know she has somebody on the other line since you talk so much on the phone. Geez, parents are not that dumb.

We are smarter than 5th graders... in some things.

I was afraid to tell my parents about my boyfriend, too, because my dad is really a nutcase (he has guns). But one time I brought my boyfriend to my house when no one was home, my dad came home and was kind of pissed, but everything worked out. I just should have trusted my dad more. The point is, if she really loves you she won't be afraid of her parents because she will just jump in head-first with you, no matter what happens.