He came to make up and then break up very nasty, what happened?
My boyfriend and I dated for over 2 years and got to the point where he said he had enough and doesn't want to be with me, but still loves me. He had enough of our make up break up cycle due to our bad communication. I've always tried to communicate and I've talked about the issues, he didn't listen to me or he avoided the conversations. Since the break up we haven't seen each other for 3 days during which he texted me calling me babe and writing kisses. I didn't text back because I didn't know what he wanted by that right after he said he wanted to just be friends. Even his brother emailed me during that time and he never does that.
Then my bf/ex came today to my place, brought me some presents, my favorite dishes in fact. And he had to go right after. As he was leaving he said he'll came to sleep over to my place with me by night. I asked why. Because again I didn't know why. Was it out of conveniece, like friends, lovers, what? He didn't say anything but he wanted to kiss me a few times which I refused but gently, as I was very hurt and confused by him. And wanted to know for sure where I stand. I wanted to hear it, to talk, even a little, and he wasn't in such a rush. He didn't answer my question, he said- for nothing and just left.
I stayed shocked how could he play with me and my emotions like that, why did he came then anyway? So I ran after him and catched him in his car. He just opened a window and I asked why did you leave just like that? He said- because I did, I left. I went back home ashamed why did I go after him with other people, neighbours, watching us. For a answer of course, to get a peace of mind, but I got a knife in my back.
We do love each other, I've told him I loved him 3 days ago, and he did to. Why is he acting like this? It's driving me crazy. Why this drama, I'm really going nuts, and now I think I had enough. He is 30!
Somebody please say something, thanks. Did I do wrong?
If you can imagine your life without someone, does that mean you've never truly loved
This is a general question but I'd like to know your view on this, thanks.
If you've been in several serious or long term relationships and you thought you loved them but it has never worked out for whatever reason, do you think it wasn't true love?
What is true love for you? Isn't every love true if you're honest with yourself and that person?
I don't believe in "the one", "mr.right", "one love" and so on... I believe "that" is when it's bothsided, mature and responsible.
I don't want to get married, but I believe in love. For those who are married or about to, can you imagine your life without him/her? I think I will always be able to do that. Everything other than "yes" for the answer is called dependency.
Your thoughts?
What is possesive when it comes to friends in a relationship?
If you want to have friends that are just “yours”, and you mostly want to keep them separate from your partner, you will be called possessive and controlling for wanting to isolate him or her, and maybe even accused of cheating if it's about friends of opposite sex.
If you on the other hand want to hang out all the time together with mutual friends, that is also labeled controlling as you wish to be a bit of too huge part of his life and you may be called a smothering partner.
Neither way is good and I want to ask where the balance is?
What if one partner is one way, another one the other?
I have a problem with my boyfriend that he always invites himself to meet my new friends and it ends up with him going everywhere with me to meet them. Not just once, or a few times, he wants to become very good with them. They like him and I don't mind but I would like to talk with only them sometimes as they were my friends first to start with and I had the need for that. I feel like my boyfriend is controlling me with it but he sees it as nothing but socializing. I don't want to be in a place one day where all the people I know are people he knows. If we breakup one day, I'll have no one as I wouldn't want to see him anymore, and that would be difficult if we had just mutual friends. Is that maybe what he plans, as we do argue a lot lately, but we're not about to breakup.
He invites me to go with him and his friends, whom I don't mind, but I encourage him to go alone, as I think it's good for us and as I don't really find his friends that interesting. That led me to the place where I refuse or find excuses not to go with his friends, and not to go with my friends neither, as I say to him that he goes with my because I can't stand being together all the time. When I do say I'm going alone and I rudely don't invite him, as I know he would come otherwise, he later asks me how it was and I can see he would be happier if he came too.
How to handle this? He is quite sensitive and he even cries how I don't show enough affection to him in public, or I don't start it first. I explained I'm just that way and it doesn't mean I don't love him, but it didn't work. Is he being manipulative, as I am not cold.
Thanks.