I am a 64 year old woman who has been living in a de facto relationship for 20 years. The relationship has broken down with no communication whatsoever and we are living in the same house but separate lives. I still like this person but no longer love him and am thinking to move on but the thought of packing and finding somewhere else to live at my age daunting. I have a daughter who lives in the City and says she will buy me a house to live in for the rest of my life, but find this statement a bit unreliable as what if something happens to her and her husband wants to marry again or whatever.
Any suggestions would be good thanks

My mother is exactly your age and she fell out of love with my dad when I was born (im 24) she has stayed with him because he is 'comfortable' and he pays the bills and just the whole process of splitting is a long annoying.

My father lives down stairs in the basement. I love both my parents very much but I have ALWAYS hated hearing my mom complain constantly about how she doesn't get along with him or what he did or how much she really hates seeing him around... they are both unhappy & very incompatible together..

Ever since I could remember my mom has ALWAYS brought up how unhappy she is with him and what he does wrong and how much she wishes he would just leave for good. I have heard the same stories over & over, I recently around my early 20;s just started telling her to never bring it up again because if she doesn't plan on doing anything about it why keep complaining about how unhappy you are. So when she brings up that subject I just leave the room or ignore her now.

I would do anything to see my mom just finally get a divorce and move on they both deserve to find someone else who will make there lives happy. I hate seeing them both just drag this on and on every year. If you really want out and your daughter is willing to help you take it. Everyone deserves to be happy.

Have you considered counciling?
How would you support yourself were you to go it alone,disregarding your daughters offer?

Can you support yourself without your daughter's help? Have you tried saying this to your husband?

Get it in writing and leave, or be happy with what you have.

It makes no sense to complain about how unhappy you are and not make an effort to change it. At least explore your options and make a choice.

Maybe it is time to start communicating. Can not blame it on one party but both of you for letting it get to this point. Time to come together and time to get some counseling and start talking to each other again.

Joe