Me and the guy knew each other for 5 months and dated for 2months. We had ups and downs. We broke up before and he cried for me and became a stalker for a little bit. We got back together and we still had up and downs. This guy did a lot for me. I was so happy with him. Then one day he hung up I thought he did it on purpose so I fuss at him in a text. After that fuss he ignore me for a week. He told some girl he was single. He isn't have time for girls cause he is in school and he like to party. So finally we talk he said I didn't care about him I don't love him and I am not happy. He ignore me some more.2 weeks lata we talk . I ask if he care for me he said he couldn't answer it cause I had really push his buttons and he need space. 2 weeks by Christmas and he still didn't say anything. I text him after christman and new years he still haven't said anything. What do you think about this guy? How can he go for caring for me doing all this stuff then I fuss at him he get mad and run. Its been 3 months and he has yet to give me closure even though I am better I still hurt a little cause I'm like I never thought he could act like this.

I told him that his best friends was tryna get with me he was in denial sayn his friend will never do stuff like that. His best friends calls me all the time sayn different stuff.I cutt him off but he still be calling me. I am just hurt that my ex can ignore me for so long. Its been 3 months come on now. His best friends said he was tryna talk to some girl but she was playn so now he say he feel bad for what he done to me. If this is true. How come you can still ignore me for 3 months.then I sopke to him recently in a text and he is still ignorn me.

Forget him and move on.

Yes. I have forget him but I really care for him and it hurts. I was doing me not worryn about no guys then here he comes pop in my life beg me to be with him I lower my expectations with him then he comes and knock me down. It hurts I go to counseling for it but it hurt so bad. I don't have friends nor family I can talk to. So when me and him was together it was life my world was being completed now he is gone I am like ugh.

But donn yessssssssssss I have to move on.its been 3months and it hurts... so what did you think about this guy?what would make him do this?

Make him do?
Nothing!
There is absolutely nothing you can make him do. Nor is there anything he can/will do except to take advantage of you. If you are having problems with moving on, get professional help. Either your church or school councilor, but get help.

Yes I know. I get counseling now because it hurts but thank you donn


O and I was asking why would he do this?:(

Nobody can tell you why-only he can and I advice you to just let your questions go.
Concentrate on healing from the breakup and be happy with your own life.
He is in the past,let him stay there.

He ignores you because he wants nothing to do with you. Sure your hurt, I would be too! But I sure wouldn't be trying to hold on to those feelings, or wonder where they came from. Rejection hurts a lot, but you must take the hint and drop it, and get on with your life.

You have made the same mistake we all have, you wrapped up your happiness with some one that didn't feel the same as you do. Oh, he may have said the right things, but he changed his mind quickly. It happens and you have no control over his feelings.

The real issue is find out why you fell so fast for the guy (2 months? Wow!! )

That's a sure sign of a needy person who is insecure, and has self esteem issues, with themselves.

Glad your getting help!

talaniman I don't think I feel fast cause when we first started talking I wasn't attached. I was just getting a little attached close to the time he broke up with me...


He was attached to me.. he bought all this stuff.he cried for me. He became a stalker when we 1st split and all this time I wasn't attached. I was just now getting close when we broke up so that's why it hurts more. Also it hurts more cause I lost my dad last year so sometimes I compare both lost. I am doing fine I am way better but of course sometimes I do think why at times

amicon yea.I know. I am not worried as I use to be.prayer has got me far. I have more to offer than he. He was immature. He still stay with his grandma I am doing big things for myself.

I was wondering how someone who care for a person sooo much let a fuss in a text mesg let it get the best of them?

Also he is young minded he trust his best friends.his best friends been trying to get with me and I have told him this but he is so immature. He think getting all the girls he can is the way of life.

But it will come back to him I already know and if he doesn't have the heart to give closure than I will let him be.

It just amaze me how we are born with hearts but some people do not know how to use them. I know he know he is wrong what he did. But again he is young still got learning to do. And he has a lot of pride I sense.

Let him be and keep healing.
I'm sorry about your dad,I hope you're coping better,it's sad losing a parent.

You said in your post that you wanted him to return your texts so that he could give you closure.

The only person that can give you closure is yourself. And you will never get it as long as you expect him to provide it for you.

There is no knowing why he did what he did. After such a short relationship, he just wasn't as into it as you were. He has moved on, and you have to as well.

Best of luck with your therapist in moving through this and moving on to better, happier times.

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If he doesn't have the heart to give closure than I will let him be.

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Let him be then.

Closure=Acceptance!

Yea Jake I hear you and thanks. I just feel that he was more into me than I was cause he did all this stuff I was doing me I wasn't letting anything hinder me then I get close that's when he wants to leave. Smh.. but its OK he can leave no one knows the answer for his action but him

His best friends claim he knows he hurt me and he know I am a good person and that's why he ignore me because he didn't want to hurt me but I still end up getting hurt. His best friends was like he speak highly of you but I guess he wasn't ready for what you had to offer. Which can be true. He did tell me I was maturer than him and stuff.

But how you going to start messing with other girls thinking its cool to have 20 girls at once and even try to date one knowing you did another female wrong. I be too scare cause I be thinking I did someone wrong what if this new person do it to me...

But I am doing better the pain is not as deep I just wanted some opinions.. and thank you

And yes amicon it is sad that I lost my dad but I know he love me and is in a better place so I'm good I miss him a lot but I know he is not in pain...

And yes I have to let my ex be. Its funny how I wasn't that into him as he was into me I mean words can't explain all the things he did for me and I didn't do anything then all of a sudden he change. But everything happen for a reason and I just have to live and learn and keep it moving