I have no idea what to do.
My fiancé of 6 years told me last week that he is not sure how he feels about me anymore, that he loves me but is not sure he feels a "connection" anymore.
In many ways I cannot blame him. I have had a number of very negative and traumatic things happen to me in my life and these have effected the way I build and keep relationships with not just my fiancé but the few friends that I have too.
I have pushed him away constantly and hidden my feelings for fear of getting hurt, even though he is the kindest and most sincere person you could ever wish to meet. He is a true gentleman. I have been working really hard at letting my guard down, I guess just not quick enough.
We are both devastated and have agreed to try and see if there is anyway in which we can work things out but right now Im at a loss as to what to do.
I have said I will be patient and try and let him work it out, God knows he has shown me enough patience, but I don't know how to handle it all. One minute he wants it to work and is positive, the next he can't even look me in the eye.
He says it is his fault, that it is him who has changed but I know he is just tryng to protect me and that it is my lack of intimacy that has ruined things. I am so angry for letting my past ruin my future.
What the hell do we do? We're 32, live together near my university, hours away from home, have everything vested in each other. I don't have any friends that I am close enough to talk to about this and I have no family. He refuses to speak to his mum or dad about it because he feels he is letting them down and he refuses to go to councilling because of his uncertainty about how he feels about me.
We have always been honest with each other and are only confiding in each other, and I am trying so hard to be strong, objective and patient but I have no idea how we should move forward with this?
Any advice would be very grateully received because right now I feel like I am breaking.