All right, well I'm beginning to fear this a lot. I am 19 years old, I am a virgin and so is my girlfriend. We've tried having sex a couple times (about three) but apparently I lose my erection. I am not sure why though, I am pretty healthy person, don't drink, smoke, I workout 4 to 5 times a week. The thing is that when we make out and touch each other I get erections but after everything that has happened, I am scared to take off my pants cause I feel it will be gone in a minute.. The last two times that I've taken my pants off my erection has disappeared. It's so frustrating because Ive been dating her for over a year and she's very special to me, I want to lose it to her so bad but now every time we're alone it's the same thing.. Can anyone please help, please..

I think you are just nervous. Having sex for the first time is a beautiful thing and from the sound of it you could really love this girl which makes it even more special. So there is a lot of pressure there for it to be perfect. First of all, it will be perfect no matter what because of how you feel about each other. If you keep being afraid to take your pants off you will make your girlfriend think you are not attracted to her anymore. Just start slow. Don't think too much. Just close your eyes and feel. Feel your heartbeats. Maybe have her start you off with oral. Just get comfortable being naked and touching each other. Rubbing against her, kissing and hugging naked. Go as slow as you need to and remember to just feel the moment don't think about it. It is a special thing so there is no need to rush or feel pressured. You will see as you get less nervous rubbing against her naked you won't even notice how excited you are and that you are ready to have sex. I hope this helps. Good luck to you both.