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I'm in love with two guys.

I'm in love with two dudes and I don't know what to do. OK so lets call them john and johnny. I really love john because the way he makes me feel and how I am round him I just feel really nice around him and everythign about him. NOW johnny I can't c myself with him but he's really nice and cool, I want to break things of with Johnny but I don't know how because he's so sensitive and he's been heartbroken twice since he's been with a girl. So my question is how do I break it off with johnny without hurting him so bad? Because he's really gentle and nice THANK YOU IN ADVANCE

Unfortunately, if Johnny found out that you didn't really love him but loved someone else, but only stayed with him out of pity, I think it would hurt more than simply telling him that you don't think your relationship is going somewhere.

Honesty is always best; I think you should tell Johnny that you really like him as a friend, but don't see your relationship going anywhere.

How old are you?

Leading Johnny on isn't fair to him and that will hurt him more in the long run. If you don't feel the same way about him anymore, then make it a clean break. He'll have to find a way to recover, that's not your responsibility.

As for John, he's already your rebound. You're basically using him as your back up plan, once you break up with Johnny, you have a safety net to land on.

If you break up, spend some time recovering before jumping into a new relationship.

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How old are you?

Leading Johnny on isn't fair to him and that will hurt him more in the long run. If you don't feel the same way about him anymore, then make it a clean break. He'll have to find a way to recover, that's not your responsibility.

As for John, he's already your rebound. You're basically using him as your back up plan, once you break up with Johnny, you have a safety net to land on.

If you break up, spend some time recovering before jumping into a new relationship.

JOHN IS not my rebound I've been in love with John before Jhonny came along its just that he developed feelings for me so fast I din't know what to do @ all, because I tought we would just be freidns

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JOHN IS not my rebound i've been in love with John b4 Jhonny came along its just dat he developed feelings for me so fast i din't know what to do @ all, because i tought we would just be freidns

Things didn't work out with John, so you moved along. But now you want to go back to John?

Why can't you stay single and figure things out before going into a relationship? Why so much drama? Why cause yourself so much confusion? Why rush into a relationship?

How old are you? Age-range?

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So Johnny is the rebound. Things didn't work out with John, so you moved along. But now you want to go back to John?

Why can't you stay single and figure things out before going into a relationship? Why so much drama?

LISTEN me and john were going out before and we still are its just that john came along and we were just friends and out of nowhere he told me he loves me and I don't know what to do about that because I don't feel like I could be with him. Johnny is not a rebound HE'S STILL WITH ME me and johnny NEVER were.
AGE RANGE-(17-20) n yeah I know what love is. If you were wondering

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AGE RANGE-(17-20) n yeah i know what love is. if you were wondering

What I'm wondering is why you can't be single until to figure out what you want? If you know what you want already, then go do that, don't lead someone else on if you don't feel the same way about them.

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What I'm wondering is why you can't be single until to figure out what you want? If you know what you want already, then go do that, don't lead someone else on if you don't feel the same way about them.

That's all I am asking I just want to know how to gently tell him that I don't want to be with him like he wants to be with me. THAT'S IT

Tell him the truth. Tell him that you don't feel the same way anymore, so it's better to go your separate ways.

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Tell him the truth. Tell him that you don't feel the same way anymore, so it's better to go your seperate ways.

THANK YOU omg I don't want to hurt him but I guess its better for us if I do that. Well thank you for the advice imma use it.

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Be honest and the sooner the better.

Why would you be interested in the one guy, not date him, then date someone else. Then go back to the other guy who didn't date you? Didn't he already have his chance?

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Why would you be interested in the one guy, not date him, then date someone else. Then go back to the other guy who didn't date you? Didn't he already have his chance?

NO WE NEVA DATED. I'm with 2 da other just came along and started talking to me ME being stupid I talked to him and he started 2 have feelings for me UNEXCPECTEDLY n I din't know how to let him down GENTLY

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JOHN IS not my rebound i've been in love with John b4 Jhonny came along its just dat he developed feelings for me so fast i din't know what to do @ all, because i tought we would just be freidns

I let him go and I feel horiblle WHAT DO I DO NOW!!