I have been married for more than 13 yrs and have 3 kids with my husband. Few days ago he told me that he wants a divorce and I said yes, if that's what you want. Then he told me that I need to leave from my house and he is keeping my kids. My house is paid in full, he never gives me money to buy food or to buy my kids cloth and shoes. It's been one week and I asked him for money to buy food and his response was, "why should i, thats not my responsibility" my sisters had to give me food and some money. He never wants to pick up my kids from school. I have to call one of my sisters to pick them up for me and then to pick me up from work. Is he intidle to keep my house and my kids? His family know a lot of important people and have thread me if I fight this its going to get worst. What can I do? I need to know what lawyer to trust with my case. I love my kids and I have been the one to always support them, he never helps.

You really need to see a family Lawyer.

If he is making these kinds of threats, the time is now for you to see what your rights and expectations are - legally.

Stop being a sitting duck, get the facts, and act accordingly.

It's your house as well, so I wouldn't be leaving at this point. And I certainly wouldn't be getting money from your sister for food. If you're not working, feeding the kids is HIS responsibility. Let HIM deal with the kids when they want something to eat.

But, I would be getting some good legal advice - a women's shelter can direct you to a lawyer that will have your interests at heart. Do it soon - he sounds like a bully and he sounds abusive.

His family may know important people but you and the children still have rights. Get the information you need and then decide what you're going to do. There ARE people out there that will help you.

You have to see an attorney right away.

The house should belong to both of you, so at the very least it could be sold and the profits split. That should be addressed in your divorce decree. After the divorce you should be entitled to child support and possibly some spousal support.

I'm sure he'd love to force you out of the house and have you leave the kids so he could come across as being deserted and then he'd more than likely be able to get custody of the kids. For that reason DON'T LEAVE until you have filed for divorce and been given at least temporay custody of the kids.

Protect yourself by knowing what your rights are. Don't believe him!

What state is this in and has any paperwork been filed by either party? What are the ages of the children?

You are correct, it will get worst, for him, you need to get an attorney, check with the legal aid socieity of your area, you need to file for divorce and file for custody of the children, also file for child support and for spouse support

Now make plans, you will need to find a job so you have some of your own money