I just don't know what to do anymore.
I am sitting here crying, and I needed someone to talk to about it. And aparently I can't do that here at home.
I live at home at my mom/dads house. Back in September, my cheating husband finally broke the last straw by hitting me and acting like a jerk. And I left him. My life has gotten so much better, I started school, I graduate in August, I have been generally happy, and my bipolar has been pretty non existent until today.
My daughter is 6, she has ADHD, SPD, and is being tested for aspergers. She is having a great deal of trouble in school, not due to BAD behavior, but she doesn't listen in class, when the class is reading a story she is crawling around under the tables pretending to be a kitten, when she is supposed to walk in line, she is wandering around out of line. So many other little troubles that all add up to a big problem.
I have been meeting with the school principal, school psychologist, the behavirial specialist, and her teacher and elective teachers. She has been seeing a child psychologist and an occupational therepist (for the SPD and some fine motor skill issues) outside of school as well. We met today and we ALL agree that something needs different to be done because nothing has worked so far to help ayla behave better in school and at home (I hate to use the term BETTER, there is nothing WRONG with her, don't think I'm saying she is horrible)
So I get home, and because we live with my parents, aunt and uncle and grandma, and my brother and Sister in law are over often and were here today, I tried to sit down with them and explain to them what's going on, and what needs to change.
A HUGE problem is that my mom and dad need to STOP doing everything for her, and my brother and sister need to stop with the PUNISH YELL PUNISH YELL PUNISH all the time. My parents keep saying 'she is ONLY 6' well the psychologist and teachers and myself all agree, there isn't anything ONLY about it. She is 6 years old, she is not a baby, and she is more than capable of doing some things for herself, I have SEEN her do it before we moved in with my parents. Getting dressed, putting socks and shoes on, brushing her teeth, putting her coat and backpack on, getting buckled up, they do it ALL for her the second she says 'i can't do it!' so of course at school, it's a big problem, because the second something isn't easy, she cries that she can't do it. The teacher does NOT encourage it, and HELPS her do it, rather than doing it FOR Her.
My sister in law seems to think that she is an evil devil child and needs extream discaplin. I think she feels this way simply because her own 2 children (1 and 3 years) don't have ANY behavrial issues at all. My 3 year old nephew is a very quiet and complacent child, who almost never oposes any adults instructions. My niece is only 1, and is pretty average for a 1 year old.
Well I am trying to explain all this to them, and they ALL gang up on me, start yelling at me, making me feel like a bad mom, telling me the DOCTOR is full of it and nothing is going on with ayla, telling me that her teachers are full of it because there is nothing wrong with her. They just Won't listen to me. :( :( I am sitting here crying at the computer about it, trying to get myself under control, and no one even cares. Now they think I'm just being over sensitive and dramatic. Well I'm sorry, I am trying to HELP my daughter, with the advice of DOCTORS and a teacher who has been teaching special needs kids for 30 years, and they tell me that they are WRONG.
I don't know WHAT to do. Until I finish school we are STUCK here. I am just completely LOST and losing myself.