Had sex with this girl... called her up a couple of days later and asked if she wanted to watch a movie with me at her place and she said OK... so I call her up to tell her ill be there in an hour and she says she`s watching something with a friend and I ask should I still come over and she was like not today??
What am I missing?

Could I ask what age you are please?

Im 22 why

It sounds like there was no firm date and time. It's not a good idea to suddenly, when you're available, assume the other person is too. Obviously, she wasn't.

Try this: Make a date with her by calling her a week or even several days ahead and pinning down a specific time, place, and activity. "I'd love to take you ice fishing next Saturday morning. The fish start biting around 9.m., so how about if I pick you up at 8:30?"

See how that works? Then you'll have a plan, and no one is put on the spot.

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Originally Posted by Cook87

Im 22 why

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This is why...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ality-u-b.html

I did I told her I'm getting off work ar 12am and that ill then come over and we can watch the movie but I got off work at 11pm and called her... then she told me that

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ck-437341.html

Your just out of a relationship,and perhaps in need of some comfort,and while I agree with wondergirls advice,perhaps she was just blowing you off,or not that into you.

Being so recently out of emotional turmoil,may make you come across as needy.

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Originally Posted by J_9

This is why....

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ality-u-b.html

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OK got it I hope my question is not inapropriat

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Originally Posted by Cook87

ok got it i hope my question is not inapropriat

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Nope, not at all! :D

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

It sounds like there was no firm date and time. It's not a good idea to suddenly, when you're available, assume the other person is too. Obviously, she wasn't.

Try this: Make a date with her by calling her a week or even several days ahead and pinning down a specific time, place, and activity. "I'd love to take you ice fishing next Saturday morning. The fish start biting around 9.m., so how about if I pick you up at 8:30?"

See how that works? Then you'll have a plan, and no one is put on the spot.

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I did I told her I'm getting off work ar 12am and that ill then come over and we can watch the movie but I got off work at 11pm and called her... then she told me that

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Originally Posted by Cook87

i did i told her im getting off work ar 12am and that ill then come over and we can watch the movie but i got off work at 11pm and called her... then she told me that

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You backed up the date a whole hour. She was still doing her evening stuff and not mentally ready for you to suddenly descend into her life ahead of when you had said you would come over.

If she seems cool after this, I suggest you forget about her and just hang out with friends for a while and be busy with everyday stuff, thereby getting over your ex first like redhed suggested.

I concur with wondergirl.

Never ascribe to malice what can be easily explained otherwise.

You had sex with this girl and for the first date you want to go to her house and watch a movie at 11 pm?.
If I was her I would think you just planning to sleep with me again.When you want a girl not to think you just want to have sex with her you need to date out of a place where it could end in sex.
Ask her out for a date at the restaurant or a walk...
This will make her feel more comfortable.

I agree that maybe after you and her talked she might of felt that you coming over so late was to have sex again and only that. I do think that maybe taking her out on a date somewheres instead of late night at her house might make her feel more comfortable. But then you never know. Me personally I wouldn't sleep with someone before I got to know them more but everyone is different and I am not here to judge. Have you talked to her since then? I know when I have a date it being moved ahead causes a bit of anxiety for me and it does make me want to call it off for the day. But once I get to know someone that all changes. Try taking it slow, you did just get out of a relationship. Does she know this. You might be coming off as needy but you may not be.. Sometimes things like that are hard to tell..

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Originally Posted by mistyjane

You had sex with this girl and for the first date you want to go to her house and watch a movie at 11 pm?.........
If i was her i would think you just planning to sleep with me again.When you want a girl not to think you just want to have sex with her you need to date out of a place where it could end in sex.
Ask her out for a date at the restaurant or a walk...
This will make her feel more comfortable.

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I didn't want to have sex with her...
Just wanted to chill
Should I text her or call or something

Ahh yes hun.. but she might not of known that that was not your intention... mixed signals maybe.. I will admit sometimes things are hard to tell

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ahh yes hun.. but she might not of known that that was not your intention... mixed signals maybe.. i will admit sometimes things are hard to tell

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I work long hours and I'm only free late nights and she told me that she sleeps late anyway so I thought would be a nice idea... :-(

Well just talk to her again.. but don't call too often if she doesn't answer.. you could always see a late show.. or maybe go to a pub that is open late for a late night dinner

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Originally Posted by Cook87

i work long hours and im only free late nights and she told me that she sleeps late anyway so i thought would be a nice idea..... :-(

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OK you work and everything but you won't say you don't have any time when you're free in the day... Really I think it is important for you to choose a place in public and not too late.and yes don't bombard her with calls I suggest you send her a small text message.(in the morning!)

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Originally Posted by Cook87

i work long hours and im only free late nights and she told me that she sleeps late anyway so i thought would be a nice idea..... :-(

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Could you arrange another movie date after you get off work, maybe pick up something to eat on your way over, sit and watch the movie with her, chat a bit, munch on the food, but otherwise behave yourself?