I have a crush on this girl but I'm 13 and she's 11. She's the only girl I've ever loved and I have known her since I was a young girl(8). My parents aren't a prob unless boys are involved so it just matters if its right or not, I just want some adult advice

Yup 2 years isn't big that big of a difference, in fact it is well within appropriate age. Take your time though and don't rush things into something you ll regret later. You're still young, so just enjoy life.

Her parents might have different feelings from yours.

I know my step-mother didn't want me dating anyone until I was 16 years old. That was a long time ago, but some parents still feel that way. Don't be surprised if hers do. She does have to obey her parents. Even if it seems like they 'just don't understand', they have her best interests at heart.

This is girl-girl relationship. This needs some serious thinking.

Hi, cute-emo-girl!

What, specifically do you mean by "date", please? It's not unusual for very young people to have a close relationship with someone of the same gender.

Thanks!

11 year olds, and 13 year olds don't date. They play together, and do stuff that's fun.

I agree Tal, they do fun stuff and have play dates

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11 year olds, and 13 year olds don't date. They play together, and do stuff thats fun.

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I wish that is all they did these days. They are too much in a hurry to grow up and be 'adults' or are looking for what they aren't getting at home. I could blame certain toys, the media, or the school system. However, I think parents are the most responsible party.

It makes me very thankful for the children that we have raised.

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Okay 1. You don't know me. 2. I'm not the average girl, I don't cry over "getting my cellphone taken away" or "my dad not giving me money to go out". I'm the girl that cries about my moms drug issues and moving to a new school every year. 3. I have emotional and trust issues because I've been lied to all my life 4. I never got to be the girl going on play-dates and having fun because I take care of my mother and brother *since about the 3rd grade*

I have many responsibilities and no one to trust but that girl I met while my mom still worked and she is all I have, and I know what you're thinking. "well don't you're parents love you?" Yes, but they won't get me help for my problems and they ignore me when I'm depressed and they think I'm "just fine"

So please don't argue with love ;)

Oh, sweetie, you are right, we don't know you. I bet if most of us did we would welcome you with open arms and show you how a family should work. But it's not that easy.

It's fine to "love" your friend... that's what best friends are made of... love, trust and understanding.

BUT, for it to be a sexual relationship at your age is a different story. And I'm not sure that's the story you were even asking, is it?

That isn't love it's a deep desire for someone to accept you. You need love and you are finding it in unacceptable places because everyone else in your life fails you.

Start looking to yourself for love, love yourself and then when you mature you will really know what it is like to love another person.

With all of the struggles you already have on your plate, dating doesn't need to be one of them.

Everyone needs a friend they can trust. But you asked about dating, that's why this adult (and father) gave you the answer I did.

Its normal to have fun with your friends, and be close, and enjoy each other. What kind of dating are YOU talking about?? What kind of love are you talking about?

Your not an adult, so what does love have to do with this question??

Please explain, as you seem unclear about your own feelings.

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Oh, sweetie, you are right, we don't know you. I bet if most of us did we would welcome you with open arms and show you how a family should work. But it's not that easy.

It's fine to "love" your friend....that's what best friends are made of...love, trust and understanding.

BUT, for it to be a sexual relationship at your age is a different story. And I'm not sure that's the story you were even asking, is it?

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No no no, that's not it at all. Its nothing sexual, I just know she's right for me and that we should be together, she's actually being mature about the whole thing and understands its nothing too serious until were older.

I would say seek God and seek counsel. I so agree that at 11 and 13 one should be still playing dolls and video games not dating. Good luck and keep your head up.

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