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  • Feb 1, 2010, 12:09 AM
    hiddenlove
    I love a 14 year old is it legal
    Actually I'm in love with a 13 yr old girl.N I'm dam serious.she also loves me a lot.so I just want to ask is it right to keep an affair with her.actually I have to take some decision because I'm elder(19) den her.der is no case of sex in my love because I'm serious in love and I'm ready to marry her.just tell me am I right ?can I love a girl who is 6 yrs younger den me?
  • Feb 1, 2010, 12:39 AM
    Clough
    Hi, hiddenlove!

    What do her parents have to say about this? Also, there's a huge difference in life experiences between the two of you. She is too young for you and certainly not old enough to get married.

    If you were 26 and she were 20, then things might work out. She needs a chance to go through her teenage years as well as finish with her schooling. Those are just a couple of the things to be considered.

    Hopefully, others will also come along to address your question.

    Thanks!
  • Feb 1, 2010, 03:24 AM
    Jake2008
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hiddenlove View Post
    actually im in love with a 13 yr old girl.N i m dam serious.she also loves me a lot.so i just want to ask is it right to keep an affair with her.actually i have to take some decision coz im elder(19) den her.der is no case of sex in my love coz im serious in love and im ready to marry her.just tell me am i right ?can i love a girl who is 6 yrs younger den me?

    You are 19, and I presume that your nic name, hiddenlove, implies that her parents are unaware of your 'relationship' with her. For you to say you love a 13 year old minor, and for her to say she loves you, certainly implies this has been going on for some time.

    As to it being legal, here is a breakdown of state by state requirements:

    Marriage Laws in the US by Age
  • Feb 1, 2010, 03:28 AM
    J_9
    Hidenlove,

    Where do you live? Laws vary by region.
  • Feb 1, 2010, 07:08 AM
    hiddenlove
    Hey actually I don't have any relation with her.it is just that I love her and she loves me.we are not bf-gf
    And I stay in MAHARASHTRA (INDIA).I m ready to wait for her till she gets matured.
    Just tell me whether our age difference is OK or it is illegal.
  • Feb 1, 2010, 07:17 AM
    ScottGem

    So how do you know her?

    As for the legality, marriage laws vary by country. It appears the legal age in India is 18, but that child marriage is an established tradition that people are trying to stamp out.

    As for dating, I know of no place that has laws regulating dating, but most places do allow parents to control their children.

    And finally, the real legal issue is sexual exploitation. Most of India has an age of consent of 16.

    As others have said, a 6 year age difference is not a problem when you are both adults. But when one is a minor, there can be issues, especially when sexual activity is involved.
  • Feb 1, 2010, 07:44 AM
    hiddenlove
    Actually she is my neighbourhood and her sister told me that she loves me
    So I was just worried about the age difference
    And I understood that 6 yrs age difference doesn't matter but the matter is about maturity right
    I will wait till she gets matured den I'll have affair wd her
    Dats all right na
    And thanks for all the answers
  • Feb 1, 2010, 09:20 AM
    J_9
    She might love you, but at her age it's puppy love. As soon as she sees another cute guy that gives her attention she'll be in love with him instead.

    The age difference DOES matter. Maturity has nothing to do with it. I don't know about India, but in the US if you acted on your desires you would go to prison and be labeled a sex offender for the rest of your life.

    It's best for all involved to seek the attentions of a girl your own age.
  • Feb 1, 2010, 11:43 AM
    ScottGem

    At 13 she really doesn't know what love is. You've shown her some attention and that's very flattering for a 13 yr old to get attention from a 19 yr old.

    But, at 13, she is not even close to mature enough for you. And she IS what we call jail bait in the US. Are you planning to go to university? Will you go away for schooling? That would probabloy be the best thing for you. In 5 years if she is still interested, then you can try.
  • Feb 2, 2010, 08:19 AM
    hiddenlove
    But if suppose she also loves me when she is 18 and I'm 24 then is it all right
  • Feb 2, 2010, 11:11 AM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hiddenlove View Post
    ... N i m dam serious. ...

    Do they charge you in India for each character you post?

    Seriously. :rolleyes:
  • Feb 2, 2010, 11:49 PM
    hiddenlove
    Whatttttt??
    I didn't get u...
  • Feb 2, 2010, 11:58 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    Yes, at that point you are both legal consenting adults. Give her some time to mature, learn, and become and adult before you make a move more than friendship.
  • Feb 3, 2010, 02:08 AM
    hiddenlove
    Hey thnks
    This was the ans I was waiting for
    Thnks
  • Feb 3, 2010, 03:19 AM
    cheralenne
    Hi hiddenlove, At 18 I had expierenced life and love. As long as you give her a chance to experience it on her own time.

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