My husband and I have been married for 15 years. He used to be extremely vanilla in the bedroom, but I changed all that. I have been playing mistress to him for about 4 years now. (you know a little bdsm) anyway, my question is this, he has been getting a little cocky lately and has become pretty aggressive with me in the bedroom. Trust me, I don't mind at all, however; He won't really talk about any fantasies he has about bieng dominate. I am thinking he wants to come out of his submissive shell and I don't really know how to handle it or what to do. Any advice?

From one top to another, let him come out at his own pace. You might try having him tell you a fantasy over the phone during the day.

You might also consider the possibility that he needs a little more dominance and is acting out to get you to step it up.