Hey guys... I like this girl very much... Last night I took her to diner... later we had a nice walk under the snow... and when I walked her home, I started kissing her... Then she clung on to me and I reached into her pant... she told me no... and we kept on kissing... and she continued to hang on to she stayed in my arm for about 30 minutes... I love her dearly... I asked if she wanted to be my girl friend... she said she would think first... at 341 am she sends me an sms telling me that I am a good person but not the one she wants... I did not realized it at first but I think she refused me because I rushed things.. on our first date... I am a complete idiot... I feel so sad because I may have lost her forever... How should I do to get things right...

I don't think it's anything in specific that you did that pushed her away.

She gave you a chance by going on a date with you and even kissing you. But after getting to know you, she realized that you're not the type of person she wants to be with in a romantic relationship. It happens.

You can't force her in a relationship with you, it has to happen naturally.

She does not know me... You can't possibly now someone after one date..

It's not about knowing you entirely, it's about being interested enough to want to get to know you better. She was somewhat interested at first; thus, going on the date with you. But after the date, she doesn't want to get to know you more.

She just felt that you don't "click," you can't force her to go on another date with you. She has to do it willingly.

Why did she respond to my kissing and other gestures then...

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Originally Posted by Metal-hurlant

Why did she respond to my kissing and other gestures then...

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Like I said, she gave you a chance. She gave it a try. But it didn't turn out the way she thought/wanted, so she's letting you know through the text.

Why did you reach into her pants so preemptively?
Do you have no respect for women?

You hardly know her, and on the first date you reached down her pants. If I were her I would've punched you in the face, and left. My first thought would be: "wow, this guy wanted to get through the date so we could have a goodnight kiss and he could stick his hands in my pants."
You said it yourself: you hardly know her, she hardly knows you... think about it, do you want a stranger sticking their hands in your pants?

Geez, guy, what did you expect sticking your hands down her pants and asking her to be with you, ON THE FIRST DATE!!

And you think a simple kiss is a go for broke signal??

Smooth, real freakin' smooth.

Apologize you oaf!!

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Originally Posted by Metal-hurlant

Hey guys...I like this girl very much...Last night i took her to diner...later we had a nice walk under the snow...and when i walked her home, i started kissing her...Then she clung on to me and i reached into her pant...she told me no...and we kept on kissing...and she continued to hang on to she stayed in my arm for about 30 minutes...I love her dearly...i asked if she wanted to be my girl friend...she said she would think first...at 341 am she sends me an sms telling me that i am a good person but not the one she wants....I did not realized it at first but i think she refused me because i rushed things..on our first date...I am a complete idiot...i feel so sad because i may have lost her forever...How should i do to get things right....

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As a girl I can tell you you've lost that chance, to be honest. You went wayyy fast... she won't get over it. You say she doesn't know you but you felt comfortable doing that? All you can do is learn a lesson from this and NEVER do that again... it shows a lack of respect for women. I know you didn't necessarily mean it that way but that's how it comes across. Learn from this.

Lmao, out in the snow never the less , I thought this post was a joke.
I really don't know what went on in your head trying to go down her pants on the first date out in the snow!

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Originally Posted by Metal-hurlant

Hey guys...I like this girl very much...Last night i took her to diner...later we had a nice walk under the snow...and when i walked her home, i started kissing her...Then she clung on to me and i reached into her pant...she told me no...and we kept on kissing...and she continued to hang on to she stayed in my arm for about 30 minutes...I love her dearly...i asked if she wanted to be my girl friend...she said she would think first...at 341 am she sends me an sms telling me that i am a good person but not the one she wants....I did not realized it at first but i think she refused me because i rushed things..on our first date...I am a complete idiot...i feel so sad because i may have lost her forever...How should i do to get things right....

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Hey, just to be clear. How long have you known this girl by curiousity? Were you friends with her or did you just start dating her right of the bat?