She wants time/space to figure things out, I don't have problem with that.

Very complex situation.

Short Version.

She has had a man for 1.5yrs. About 3 months ago, things between me and her began, from my past experiences I told myself to not get attached to anyone, which I did a good job of until now. I've done fairly well showing that this doesn't effect me, just bottling it up. Over past month, she has been in process of leaving him, as she lived with him. We've fallen head over heels for each other, but recently he discovered that I am in the picture, he had no idea before, and called me other night several times which I ignored and I simply told her he tried calling me. I asked her to make sure awhile ago that she isn't leaving him for me, and that it's decision she is making is because she wants to be happy, her daughter is very unhappy with living there, as her child and his child don't get along at all, and she lives so far from her school there that she can't do anything with friends. She told me she didn't mean to bring me into the middle of this, and doesn't want me to, and would like some time/space to figure things out, and get her head clear. Which I don't have a problem with, my problem is keeping my finger from touching that name on the dang phone, I did delete my FB account for the time being to help me curve that temptation, and got me wondering, what is a good amount of time before I simply call her to talk, or hang out?

You don't.

She used you as her extra piece on the side of her relationship. You were the yummy frosting on her stale relationship cake. She was "having her cake and eating it to."

She was cheating on her boyfriend with you.

This is the type of woman that you want to call your girlfriend? What's to say that if she breaks up with him and starts seeing you, that she won't do the same when YOUR relationship goes cold?

You were right to cut contact. Keep it up.

You don't deserve to be the "other guy."

Stick with the no contact and live your own life and let her sort out hers.
You don't need this drama in your life.

Are you kidding? NEVER!!! She is a liar, and cheater, ( and you're to blame for going along with her BS!!! ) and should be left alone forever. That simple, leave her alone!!

Come on guy, don't be such a sucker for a SOB story!!

It's simpls, don't. You might have thought you had good intentions but you were no better in this process, because in the end, she was cheating and you knew about it. So just don't call her. It's only been a few months anyway, you're not going to miss her for long.

Don't touch that phone or computer. I know it hurts, but you are better off without her. Unless you are a huge fan of pain and heartache, no contact is the only way you can go. Move on.

WoW what a Human.
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Ok first of all you never did anything wrong you feel for a girl.. no big deal it happens :)

What you should not have done is one bottel up your feelings sure control them but never let pride get in the way of a real relationship

Other than that this person sounds like a waste of time.

And you should be thankful you learnt your lesson there is someone out there that will love you! And only you. Trust me and you won't have to hide your real feelings or try and act like nothing effects you because you are unsure of her feelings towards you

So my friend I wish you all the best

Regards