I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and for the most part we are happy. He has a child from his previous relationship. They broke up two years proir to us dating. Now that his ex knows that he has actually moved on, she is in pursuit of him again and her motive is the child. SInce he rejects her, she does not allow him to see his child and she knows what buttons to push to get him to come to her house. Help!!

Help with what? You posted this under dating so do you want help with coping with the ex's advances? Or do you want help for your boyfriend to see his child? In which case this belongs in the Family Law forum.

Your boyfriend should think about going to court to get visitation to his children.

Try not to get involved in their matters.

They have children together and she is he going to have to confer with her about the children.

Unless it is affecting you personally in ways you can't deal with, stay out of the mess and let them have it out.

Your boyfriend should go to court. It's his child too he should be able to visit when he wants, but again, leave that up to them, and stay out of the way.

Thanks for the advice guys... I picked the dating category because that is what we are doing... dating. I stay away from the drama, but there is one issue that I forgot to mention. I work in the same office as the ex, which happens to be the court house where he has to go to file for custody.

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Originally Posted by sansarae

I picked the dating category because that is what we are doing...dating.

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But you didn't answer what you want help with. If its with legal issues then your thread belongs in Family Law.

[Your boyfriend will always have a bond with his child and he should. Children need a father. If he wants joint custody then take the advice of ScottGem. If he pays child support, good for him, if not, she needs to see that he does

A father is someone who carries picture where money use to be".

He has legal remedies for his situation, and why be involved in his drama any way? It looks like a big red flag as to how he handles his business and how messy is it to date a female where his ex works?

QUOTE=The kind of man who thinks helping with the dishes is beneath him will also think helping with the baby is beneath him, and then he is certlainly not going to be a successful father... Eleanor Roosevelt



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Do you think of what goes on when he goes to her house? If he is through with her as you say there is still a child involved and this child will always be a conduit between them. If you love him enough, accept the child and help him get visiting rights. Remember you are seeing only one side of the story. If you work with her maybe it's the time you two sat down like adults and talk about what's going on. You may be surprised.