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  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:07 PM
    xoxo ladykatie
    Boys ? Ugh.
    Okay, so I've been liking this guy for like five months now. He used to like me but I didn't like him back that time. Now I give up. I can't make him talk to me. He used to text me like every day. Goodmorning and goodnight texts. Now, nothing. He doesn't even try to talk to me. All he says is a hey and that's it. I'm trying to forget about him but he's still on my mind. How do I move on and not like him anymore ? ):
  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:10 PM
    redhed35

    There not much you can do,most likely he was thinking the same thing a few months ago,'how do I get her to like me'...

    Hang out with your friends,if you see him smile and say hello,he's most likely over you and has moved on.

    You will too.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:12 PM
    xoxo ladykatie

    I mean I would like for us to be friends; but he doesn't even talk to me.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:16 PM
    I wish
    How old are you?

    You can't force him to do something he doesn't want to do. It has to happen naturally. You already attempted to contact him, so the ball is on his side of the court to contact you. If he doesn't want to communicate with you, then that's his choice, you're going to have to respect his decision, regardless of how he might have felt about you in the past. Feelings change.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:16 PM
    redhed35

    He probably felt rejected and hurt that you did not like him a few months ago.

    Smile and say hello when you see him,be nice,maybe he will want to be friends after a while,but if it was the other way around and you had been rejected by a boy you liked,how would you feel?

    I don't mean that in a mean way,only to try and see it from his perspective.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 03:22 PM
    xoxo ladykatie

    I'm in high school. I'm trying as hard as I can to move on right now.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:02 PM
    CarrotTalker

    You rejected him 5 months ago, why would he want to be with you after you changed your mind?

    In his head, he lost the attraction a while ago. Just let it go, not worth the pain and suffering.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:13 PM
    xoxo ladykatie

    I just want us to be at least friends...
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:22 PM
    amicon

    You can't make him want to be your friend.
    Maybe you can be friends,with time,but right now keep working on moving on.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:25 PM
    xoxo ladykatie

    Thanks. I'm trying.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:25 PM
    CarrotTalker
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xoxo ladykatie View Post
    i just want us to be at least friends...

    Ok, but you still have feelings for him. You might want to "just be friends", but that won't work. Those feelings will always be in the back of your mind and his mind.

    You tried to reach out to him to be friends, he made the decision to stop talking to you. You simply have to respect that decision. The ball is in his court, but don't stand in your court waiting for him to decide.

    Eventually, if the friendship was meant to be, it will be. But it can take time for each person to develop to a point that they can accept that.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:27 PM
    xoxo ladykatie

    Thnaks everyone<3
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:34 PM
    amicon

    Good luck and take care.
  • Jan 28, 2010, 04:36 PM
    xoxo ladykatie

    Thank you. You too.(:

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