My desktop icon of my garbage has been deleted and need it back HELP

Hi! kellygideon, welcome to AMHD :)

You don't say what Operating System you have, i.e. 2000, XP, Vista, Win 7

Try checking here for XP or Vista:
How do I make the Recycle Bin appear on my desktop in Windows Vista or in Windows XP?

Even has a fix it button.

This link offers videos:
how to find missing recycle bin - Google Videos