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  • Jan 27, 2010, 01:05 PM
    chocodrip
    Sex without bathing?
    My husband sometimes travels, and we would plan ahead as to what I should do to him, what should I wear, etc... But the weird thing is he asks me not to bathe. I do not have body odour but I still feel a little self conscious because I usually bathe with hugo boss shower gell, wear lots of jasmine flowers on my hair and spray "flora" by guicci before making love. But he gets upset and enjoys it more if I don't bathe. I'll be very clean all over but still I am more comfortable after a shower. Is his behaviour normal or is something wrong with him.
  • Jan 27, 2010, 01:17 PM
    justcurious55

    Maybe its not so much the bathing that bothers him but the scents from the things you use. If I'm around someone who is wearing too much perfume or cologne it gives me a headache. And everyone has different sensitivities to smells. Maybe you two could compromise and instead of bathing with your usual scents you could just take a shower with some unscented soap and skip the perfume.
  • Jan 27, 2010, 01:23 PM
    Synnen

    I LIKE my husband's natural body scent. It's not "body odor", like from working hard or sweating all day--it's just the scent of him, without cologne or scented soap or whatever.

    Your husband sounds normal to me.
  • Jan 27, 2010, 01:41 PM
    CravenMorhead

    There is nothing I enjoy more then my Partners scent. Especially when we are about to make love.

    Scent, or the way a person smells, has long played a part in attraction and arousal. You can see examples of this all over the animal world; it is the very same for Humans. Scent is one of the various things that we key on when we meet people. We have been using perfumes and cologne as well to enhance that scent as well and make ourselves more attractive.

    It could be that your husband wants to enjoy your 'primal musk' rather then the perfume suite that you're wearing. There is nothing wrong with that and is in fact, as Synnen said, perfectly normal.
  • Jan 27, 2010, 06:53 PM
    shazamataz

    You sound like me.
    I hate having sex without bathing first, I just feel self conscious.
    Whereas my partner likes it when I don't, he enjoys the way I smell naturally and if I shower just before we jump into bed it gets rid of all that.
  • Jan 27, 2010, 08:05 PM
    binx44

    I Like a person's natural scent but if I've worked hard or done something that required a lot of energy I'd like a shower before, I just refrain from strong smelling perfumes.. but mind you.. I don't care for perfumes much either so I tend not to use them.

    I always say though.. to each his own and if I was with someone and they preferred to do one over the other that I'd be fine with either way
  • Jan 27, 2010, 08:16 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes, if my partner had all that "smells" on her I would have to make her go wash it off with just water,

    If he wanted to have sex in a flower garden he would take you outside,
    He wants to hold and smell you, not perfume.

    In fact getting real close all of that perfume smell is sickening to me
  • Jan 27, 2010, 08:22 PM
    ohsohappy

    I like my guys natrual smell too. Even if he just got done playing basketball or something I can't help but bury my face in his chest and snuggle. I'm lucky because he never has body odor issues other than bad breath occasionally (that I don't like). He smells SO good to me, I don't know how to explain it, but it's definitely attractive, but comforting to me too. :)
  • Jan 28, 2010, 01:06 AM
    chocodrip

    Thank you for taking your time to reply.
  • Feb 1, 2010, 03:49 PM
    cyr1952

    Yes I agree I have never sniffed a perfume that turned me on like the clean smell of a turned on partner

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