My husband had an affair with a mutual friend of ours and a very good friend of our best door neighbours. He is very repentant. However I see her everywhere. At the school in the queue in the bank etc. We live in a rural area. It is impossible to avoid her. How do I cope? We are back together trying to work it out with the aid of marriage counselling. She is so different to me. Exceptionally good looking, blonde bubbly, vivacious (his words).

Remember she is as much at fault as the husband, but husband always had the ability to say no, thus it is not just their fault. After telling them off I would ignore them, not speak to them if I saw them and make every effort just to advoid them

I am in the same situation, my husband says he felt alone and depressed, he turned to a woman at work, I found out, we are trying to work it out, she is still there, I am now worried because she lives 3 doors away from his works, as I call it, she's got her bed in the carpark.
I found out a couple of days after christmas, this has been very tough, he wants to keep the family together, I just want to leave everything behind and get away.I love my husband, that's why Im still there, we also have 2 children age 10 & 13.