I had a relationship with a woman that was intensly sexual and we stopped because the emotional side of it was too hard to deal with. She continues to hint that she might be back which is fine by me, for purely sexual reasons. She now has another boyfriend and tells me it's nowhere near as good as it was with us. Apparrently I am the only man she has orgasmed with and actually made love with.
This got me to thinking, What goes through a woman's mind when she goes to another man who is nowhere near as good a lover as "the one"?

That she's inexperienced?

That's what I heard in that.

Not that it's a bad thing... but what she will learn is wile there are some real duds out there... there are a lot of good ones that shine in their own special way. If she's willing to pay notice.

That she is looking for the complete package: A lover, a partner, a friend, someone who she can share her life with, someone who would make a good father for her children (present or future), less 'drama' than she had with "the one" (i.e. less jealousy, more freedom, fewer problems in general) and the list goes on.

For some women, how good sex is pales in comparison with how good the overall relationship is.

Thanks, Cat good point, and Smoothy, yes she is inexperienced. She has two kids, and I think she is looking for a partner, and I am not. Still good friends with her, and she shares how she's doing in her current relationship. Seems sort of weird to me. Ive moved on to another 'Friend' and she knows it.

I've seen the type before. They latch on to someone that really doesn't feel the same way... while they tend to be nice... it isn't exactly welcome. AND have a way of making YOU feel like the bad guy.

Personally from my own life experience with this kind... keep your distance. Its better for both of you. She is free to find someone who feels the same as her, and you don't have to deal with the stress it WILL cause you.

Because she isn't after a booty call. She wants a life partner.

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What goes through a woman's mind when she goes to another man who is nowhere near as good a lover as "the one"?

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Please don't be offended, but you're not 'the one' if all you had was great sex. Lots of couples have fabulous sex, but it doesn't create an emotional connection or a strong relationship.

Good chemistry is wonderful, but it's not all that's required.

I'd suggest she's looking for something deeper and more meaningful than just someone that's great in the sack. I'd also suggest that at the moment you're interested in hot sex. There is nothing wrong with that!